Originally posted by hotel1
How to be a real women
Strive to stay close to the weight you were when you first met.
Have a pleasing, and pleasant manner.
Do not nag.
Be a comfort, and a joy to be around.
Take pride in the high standard to which you keep your home.
Learn to prepare delicious, and nutritious meals.
Be supportive of his goals.
Celebrate his accomplishments with him.
Show your appreciation for the way he cares about you by your actions in the bedroom.
Yeesh! I must be defective.
What happens when a woman gains weight through illness? I gained nearly 6 stone over the course of three years because of a combination of ovarian
problems... I've lost two of them in the last year... but I'm trying. Not for him, mind you. But for me...
Why should I be pleasing and pleasant? If I'm ratty, and tired, I need a shower and I'm hungry, don't expect me to be all sweetness and light.
I think I can honestly say I don't nag. I don't need to. We both do the things that are asked of us when we are asked. If we don't, a gentle
reminder is usually key.
A comfort and a joy to be around... I don't get it... Shouldn't this fall under pleasing and pleasant? I'm terrible at comforting others. I can
manage comforting my child, but other adults.... eh, not so good.
HAHA Take pride in the high standard to which I keep my home. Lol, now I know I'm broken. My house is passably clean. I'm not a maid.
I know how to cook, and I cook well. This comes from having a grandmother who used to be a chef, who taught my mum, who taught me. Now I'm a near
virtuoso in the kitchen.
I am supportive of goals, as he is of mine. Last year we celebrated his new job. And he's just painted the house. Good for him!
My my appreciation for the way he cares in the bedroom... this is the one I take umbrage at.
I am not a maid, and I am not his personal pleasure giver (well, I am). I will not 'reward' him sexually for doing something he should want to do in
the first place...
If men feel that they should only try to be nice to women because they might get sex out of it... well those are some pretty sad men, and men I should
not like to encounter.
These are the guys who whine about being put in the friendzone. You don't "buy" a woman with kindness, and hope you get something sexual in return.
A real woman shouldn't be afraid to stand up for the things she believes in. She shouldn't be afraid to be speak out against things she feels are
wrong. She should be able to enjoy her life, as she wants to, and not have to worry about living up to standards set by other people.
A real man should respect women, and see them as equals, not property.