The way I took this thread, right, was that someone was pointing out that the phrase 'real men' gets bandied about a lot, these days (which it does)
and it often ends up contradictory. As in, women want a bloke who looks good, but not someone who used a lot of product or spends hours in front of
the mirror. So you want a naturally good looking bloke, ladies, yes? Cool. Well what if men want a naturally good looking girl? I'M NOT GOING OUT
WITHOUT MAKE-UP NO WAY!
You see my point?
We're being asked, not to separate equality or upset each other with the statements (it was stated in the OP this isn't the place for negativity) but
personally consider real
. Which, aye, actually, is a fairly difficult question.
Because if we say real is no implants or make-up, what if someone is so concerned about their looks that they can't feel relaxed out of the house
without them? Is that down to the person or down to a society view? Same goes for men. It'd be great to find someone naturally stunning, but lets face
it, most people aren't.
Being real, to me, is about feeling good with yourself, working with what you have and behaving the same way towards everyone you meet. That goes for
men and women, so I don't personally think there needs to be a separate category.
And, not everyone can live up to this 100% of the time. We all make schnide comments behind other peoples backs (although I'd hope we try not to go
out of our way to do this), we all fall down, we all do stupid or bad things, but again, this is more real than people who don't (monks and that
excluded of course, but they isolate themselves and have training), because it's part of human nature. Just like making mistakes is natural and
because of this we have to hope that people can bring up that other quality humans tend to have of forgiveness.
I think the point of the thread was to find what real
was, not ideal, and some people are blurring the boundaries by getting upset about the
context or the title without reading into it. Because it isn't derogatory to ask what real is, or express a belief. It's derogatory when you try to
mould someone into it when they're not.
So, aye. Being real is accepting your flaws and other peoples flaws, trying your best to be happy with yourself and your partner for who they are and
trying your best not to slag people off without asking them first. But if you can't get all of these, then that's fine because as long as you're being
yourself, you're not being fake. Which terms you real.
I'm sure I could've said that in like 3 sentences. I do like to ramble on. Sorry team.
edit on 26/4/2013 by Ayana because: woah,