posted on Dec, 31 2012 @ 03:42 PM
Oh, and this might be a little OT... but for the life of my I can't see any serious harm to allowing your frightened child to crawl into bed with you.
My parents did NOT allow me into their bedroom at night, and I believe it made my nightmares and fears even worse -- not to mention the fact that as a
little kid I didn't understand why they wouldn't comfort me when I was really terrified. But, I hold no grudges about it. I am sure they were
doing what they believed to be best. Parenting is tough, and I know they made decisions out of love.
While I do gently encourage my kids (again, both very young - under 4) to go back to bed, I have no problem making room for them in our bed if they
need it. My feeling as a parent is that if my kid was scared in the daytime, you can bet I'd give them hugs and the chance to talk about it, and try
to soothe them. Why would it be any different at night? They aren't suddenly alone at night, having to deal with whatever fears they are facing by
Also, frankly, kids are only little for such a short while. The nights when one (or very rarely two) end up cuddling up with me are actually very
sweet memories for me. Really precious moments.
Having said all of that - every parent, every child, every family is different. What works in one family may not work in another. As long as a
child is loved and cared for - to each his own.
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