posted on Dec, 31 2012 @ 11:00 PM
When my son was three, he used to call out to me and I'd get out of bed and come see what was the matter. He was scared -- not crying -- but very
scared -- saying the shadow man on the wall was pointing at him. The first time it happened, I remember telling him it was probably shadows from the
trees outside onto his wall.
I was a bit unnerved, because it kept happening, and clearly there were no shadows from trees on any of the walls. We did have "ghostly" sounds in
the hall, as if someone were walking down the hall in slippers. I often felt as if I were not alone in the house, but my husband and I would nervously
laugh about the "ghost" to our selves (not in front of the kids) - thinking it was the old lady who used to live in the house.
My son is now 20 (well adjusted despite a lot of difficult times) and til this day brings up the fact that he went through sheer torture on many
nights because of the shadowy figure, always beckoning to him with long, bony fingers. The torture was that I did not believe him and would re-tuck
him in, and leave him there.
Since that time, so many unexplained things happened in that house, and seemed to have followed us to our new home. I've had Maryann Winkowski, the
ghost whisperer, out to both homes...which seemed to alleviate things for a time. I've saged until I thought my lungs would burst.
So, my advice, as a mom and one who didn't want to believe, look into cleansing your home. I don't think it's wise to let a child see your fear of
the "dark" things--or to arm them with magic swords and spells (that will make it even more "real" -- even if it is real. After many years, I've
come to learn that it best to not be afraid, not let your kids see you be afraid, be assertive about your space and rights, and let kids dive into
your bed if they need to. That age is pretty young to be questioning a child the next day. Best to watch, observe, see what else might be happening
(or not) during daylight hours and at night.
Our cats gave us clear signs when things were bad in the house. At its worst, my cats refused to come inside the house, and when they did, they slunk
in, scared and nervous, hurried to the food bowl and kept looking up until they ran to the door to be let out. Our rabbit kicked its cage apart in
sheer terror twice during the night, during the worst times. Pets can give you a clear sense of what your child might be sensing.
Best of luck. Glad you reached out to the community. It's not a normal PTA or Little League practice convo with other parents. Sometimes you just
gotta reach to uncoventional places to get out of the box advice.