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Daily experience suggests that non-romantic friendships between males and females are not only possible, but common—men and women live, work, and play side-by-side, and generally seem to be able to avoid spontaneously sleeping together. However, the possibility remains that this apparently platonic coexistence is merely a façade, an elaborate dance covering up countless sexual impulses bubbling just beneath the surface.
Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends.
Males were significantly more likely than females to list romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, and this discrepancy increased as men aged—males on the younger end of the spectrum were four times more likely than females to report romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, whereas those on the older end of the spectrum were ten times more likely to do the same.
Originally posted by rickymouse
Ahhh, I had lots of girls as friends, I never went out with them. I noticed that if guys went out with the girls they would soon not be friends anymore. I preferred to have the friends than a quick fix. Maybe I'm just a strange guy.
Originally posted by wagnificent
There is a fairly obvious exception that is not addressed here -- homosexuality. I have several female friends who are gay, and thus there is no sexual tension or romantic confusion. I also have female friends whom I have absolutely no romantic interest in, so again no tension or confusion.
It also helps that I am already in a long term relationship, so I get to use the appropriate anatomy in my decision-making processes.
Originally posted by Sly1one
Women have a higher tendency to compartmentalize, label and file accordingly. Its harder for them to take someone out of the "friend" box relabel them and file them in "romantic partner" none the less they are two completely separate boxes with separate definitions and qualifications...
Originally posted by yourmaker
The whole relationship dynamic is uninteresting to me now.
Sex is the last thing on my mind lately. It's a weird obsession to most people I find.