Guys, ive been meaning to post this for while, but my issues are now coming to a head., page 2

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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Something I noticed in your title. "My issues are coming to a head"

That's wonderful! That means you are growing and integrating all these "lessons" you have learned being here. Far to often people just cover things with rainbows and forget to actually work on their issues. I applaud you efforts.

Nobody said this would be easy! We got on this bike, now we peddle it. Don't give up!



Everything is perspective, look at death like this. It helped me tremendously when dealing with the same fear. Tonight when you go to bed, realize you are dying a little death. Now think how many times you have died over the course of your life. Do that enough times and the concept of "death" seems silly!

Best wishes to you OP, take care!

reply to post by westcoast

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I want to urge you to throw aside the normal concept of religion. This belief that you have to *earn* your way to heaven or your worthiness. You were considered worthy before conception, and still are. I truely believe that we are here on this earth to learn. To grow in awareness and experience. The answer is so very, very simple that most people totally miss out on it.

Thank you for helping me remember this. It is so easy to get caught up in old thought patterns. More and more I am becoming comfortable with "thoughts" that my heart knows to be true, but my mind rejects.

Religion is the minds concept of "God", our heart would call this god "Love". Feel Love inside your being and radiate that to your self and those around you. That to me is "God". It is so easy to get caught up in labels of our mind. We adopt a sense of self from them and if someone attacks that "self" we retaliate. We should keep it simple God = Love, the rest is mind trying to understand and label the world around us.

Thanks again for the reminder, it is something I am currently working on. So easy to forget. Looking through our heart we do not see any labels. We are all love. Even the "terrorist"!, they just forgot. I say forgive them. See I can say that with my heart, but the mind says differently.

reply to post by westcoast

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In my previous post I was not dissing rainbows I just noticed your avatar is in fact a rainbow.

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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That's because your entire post is about the fear you face with the death of your ego. To me, all person's ego's die when they die, as that is the outcome of the biological computing our brains do. Your personality, likes, dislikes, goals, dreams, etc - are all byproducts of your physical brain.

What passes on, is the electricity that ran the neural networks of your brain, and this can easily be called your soul. It's the energy that gives your body life, that moves onto the wider universe when it's freed from your body upon death.

If you're really curious - read the book "'___': The Spirit Molecule"

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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"Dying is easy, life is the hard part."

I think it's entirely human, to think about our mortality, specifically our deaths. Personally, I find it rather humbling to release how short and vulnerable life really is. I mean, when you start to look at the trees, mountains and earth itself we start to seem rather insignificant don't we? So much beauty in nature, and so many variations on everything from rocks, to trees, plants and the creatures that dwell on them.

They say the only thing certain in life, is death. Now this is a rather bleak statement, especially for someone feeling the blues, but I like to think of it a little differently. The variables in life are limitless, I mean of the 7 odd billion of us on this earth, how many of us share the very same life? None, or very few I suppose, so I like to think as in life, the are limitless possibilities in death. In fact I like to believe there are as many beauties to be appreciated in death as there are in life. Depending on what you believe, these things could be as amazing as heaven, absolute peace and tranquility, true paradise free of worries, and hardship. A state of pure ecstatic bliss and harmony. Even if this is not your belief there is always the fact, that when our bodies give out, and our final moment draws near, we acquire a final appreciation for the beauty in all things. The sensations that wash over us with something as simple as a sip of water. Looking into the eyes, of a loved one. The articulation and harmonics of human speech. The way it feels to breath the air and let it exhale slowly.

Knowing that as we die, our bodies return to the earth, becoming part of the very soil that makes up our world, the very heart from which life flourishes.

I truly believe death is not something to be feared. No matter how it comes, we all experience it just once. How many other experiences in life do we get exactly like that aside from perhaps bringing life into this world? Our deaths are not so much the end but perhaps the beginning of something so much more. Heaven, reincarnation, transcendence to another world, perhaps like this or altogether different. The possibilities are as limitless as the universe around us. Altogether, what ever belief, or lack of beliefs you may have, the entire universe is energy, in different states existing in harmony. Energy, never ceases to exist, it simply changes forms, and all the particles in your body, are composed of and contain energy. You will go on, maybe not in the form you inhabit today, but you will go on.

I've too been troubled with dark thoughts, depression, and worldly woes, but I've learned to embrace them, and I quite often find it's the simplest things that bring me back. Eating a particularly tasty orange, Singing my heart out in the shower, making a blunder and laughing at my foolishness. Looking at the mountains, or watching some critter going about his business in the yard. My darkest times, usually lead to the deepest thinking.

Life is short, Death is over in a instant, what comes after I'm not sure, and I'm not really sure any of us on this side are supposed to know. I personally, can't wait to die. I think the whole experience is kind of exciting. (not that I want to hurry it along by any means.) It's the ultimate question of humanity, what happens when you die? Regardless, of the results we are all here to experience life, and I think in times like these, perhaps that's the single best thing to do. Live, experience all that you can, the good, the bad no one else get's to experience like you do.

I have a rather weird way of looking at the world, life and death, and I hope you found comfort in my words, as macabre as some of it may sound.

It will be alright, I promise.

OP, i think you are not alone in your thoughts,

I am 45 and due to recent turns in health am facing the reality of mortality
much sooner than expected, according to my doc i have around 2 years
left on this rock. Im hoping they are wrong.

But i went through all the emotions and worries and feelings, and in the end,
decided to live while i could and not worry about what lie's ahead.
I am not a big country fan, but i think this song will inspire you, it fit me almost
exact and since diagnosed is how i try to live my life as best as my body will allow.



in case the link dosent work right
www.youtube.com...

We can only control our reactions to what we encounter every day
and we can only live in the here and now, the future is unknown,
dont waste to much time dwelling and enjoy what you have

Originally posted by Destinyone
reply to post by thedoctorswife

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I decided to post the lighter side of the afterlife, to ease your concerns....

Fret not my love. You will have your very own Rainbow Unicorn to ride wherever you want. You'll be able to see through everyone's clothing, and they won't even be able to hear you giggling....

All farts will smell like fresh baked honey buns, and there is no such thing as halitosis in the afterlife.

It will be glorious...I promise.....

Des

edit on 23-10-2012 by Destinyone because: (no reason given)

I like you. but you already knew that. lol
WIsh i didnt live onthe other side of an ocean, then i could come and eat all your cookies!
Thankyou to everyone for their replies, im still reading them.

reply to post by one4all

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try to be a snowflake that bounces off of and touches as many people and things as possible on my way down,because i wish to be REMEMBERED,for I believe that this is the real judgement we all face,our lifespans are decided by how long others REMEMBER US FOR

Im a gonna then

Nice post really passionate!

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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Mother nature repeats herself everywhere; so i have always thought and believe that
just like the caterpillar turns into a butterfly,when we "die" we are just shedding our outer
skin and metamorphosis to our next ? (what i dont know)

If not then whats the point of everything if theres no next?

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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I think at some point we all start to feel our mortality, and it's easy to get drawn into focusing on all the "what ifs".
When you find yourself dwelling on what comes next instead force yourself to think of living with a life of "no regrets".

So many times we hear of people in their final moments regretting the things they did or did not do. Don't be one of these people. Live each day of your life like it could be your last, and live it in such a way that you don't have any regrets. Don't do anything that you wish you had not, and do everything you can so that you have no regrets of things you did not do.

Tell your close one's every day that you love them. Don't wait to start that bucket list- start it NOW. Stop and smell those flowers, help that elderly person load their groceries, smile and laugh with that child making a goofy face in line, go down that slide at the park and laugh your butt off at yourself.

If you live each day with no regrets you won't have time to think about tomorrow.

reply to post by thedoctorswife

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I have a friend who is battling liver cancer, among other things. She's come to terms with her mortality, and the fact that she is fighting a losing battle. Coming to terms with that frees you in ways you and I simply can't imagine.

But I get where you are coming from. I don't believe in any incarnation of "god" as a creator. No heaven, no hell. Our bodies decay and eventually cease to be.

But, thanks to the laws of physics, the "information" remains. sure, your body gets recycled back into it's base elements and reused, so in a way it's gone, but at the very fundamental level, you never go away, you simply go back into the earth.

As for consciousness.... I'd like to think some how our consciousness survives, but I don't see that being likely, and really, eternity as a bodiless "consciousness" doesn't sound appealing to me.

In fact, I'd go so far as to say THAT would be hell for me.

I'm scared of death, no one wants to die, I can only hope I go out quietly in my sleep.

Originally posted by AwakeANDreaming
reply to post by thedoctorswife

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Something I noticed in your title. "My issues are coming to a head"

That's wonderful! That means you are growing and integrating all these "lessons" you have learned being here. Far to often people just cover things with rainbows and forget to actually work on their issues. I applaud you efforts.

Nobody said this would be easy! We got on this bike, now we peddle it. Don't give up!

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Everything is perspective, look at death like this. It helped me tremendously when dealing with the same fear. Tonight when you go to bed, realize you are dying a little death. Now think how many times you have died over the course of your life. Do that enough times and the concept of "death" seems silly!

Best wishes to you OP, take care!

edit on 24-10-2012 by AwakeANDreaming because: (no reason given)

edit on 24-10-2012 by AwakeANDreaming because: (no reason given)

Every moment we change a little bit and what we are died and we are is reborn again a little different. I am scared of hurting the moment I leave the body. But after that I get to play around and explore. Wihiiiii. Namaste.

reply to post by Sissel

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My kids are all grown and gone and I too wonder where the time went.
I kick myself for all the times lost wondering and worrying about this and that
I should've just been there more often enjoying all the little things with them.
I'm not making that same mistake with my grandkids though -
Sidewalk chalk and paper airplanes here we come!
Heck, I might even start a food fight with them.


Live each day as if it were your very last because the future isn't promised to anyone.

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