I'm thinking your talking about "love" as in having a relationship outside that of family bounds?
Because I love my parents and my brother. There are close friends of mine that I love and whom I consider family.
But if your talking about for a relationship status like being one's mate. It is up to the individual.
I have been turned off by many girls/women (depending on my age - term appropriate
) that many considered very attractive, but I learned the hard
way that attractive is not the best way to find a mate.
No to come off as rude or anything but it was mainly due to factors such as humor, how they treated others and whether I could hold a conservation
with them. Some of those I dated, it was like talking to a rock or wall. Pretty pointless and it makes dinner time very uneasy and awkward.
The person whom stole my heart, I fell for because of her humor and sarcasm, her snappy remarks which I could tell for playful and funny. These things
interested me, they challenged me and were reasons for which I wanted to ask her out. The way she handled herself and how she treated others awed me.
She is able to hold a good conservation for hours on end and her insight into things gave me another way to view stuff.
She is very attractive as well, though I did have friends asked me why I didn't go for someone whom they considered more attractive. But going solely
for outer appearance could be very misleading and not exactly something that worked for me. It does work for others but for me, I needed someone whom
I could connect with on multiple levels. And I am so grateful each and everyday that our paths crossed. It was a very chance encounter that almost did
not happen, I get goosebumps just thinking how lucky I am and chills thinking how close I was to missing out on meeting her.
You should follow your heart and know that if at first you don't succeed in finding your soulmate, do not despair, but picture in your head the
qualities that you find the most attractive, whether that be an outward appearance or what's inside. If you keep picturing your perfect mate, you'll
find them, and most likely it would be in the most odd ways or random type situations as mine was. What you must do though when you meet them is not
the let that moment slip by. You might only have 1 chance to make an impression or 1 chance to ever make the meeting happen.
In case it does happen to come and pass, and you missed it, still do not despair but keep picturing the same qualities that you did as before. Life
works in funny and exciting ways. It might be hard to accept what I am saying, I know this because I did not believe in such things until it happened
to me.You might by chance meet that person again or might meet another soulmate.
It is my belief that each of us has multiple soulmates, whether they are a relative, friend, or mate, we have several. To think that each of us only
has one soulmate is kinda depressing, especially if you take into account that there are 7 billion people in this world and this planet is very old.
If you think there is only one soulmate, whats to say that soulmate was not born a thousand years ago? Not a pleasant thought, but do to my
experiences I have found that each of us has several soulmates. I have met a few of my soulmates and I happen to go out with one of them the others I
am friends with. Others could probably relate to this, a friend that you grew up with, a friend that you might have met in college, a family member
(cousin, grandparent, etc) or the person you go out with. A soulmate is someone who connects with you on multiple levels, individuals whom call you
just when your thinking about them. A person who knows you better then you know yourself, knows what your thinking or how your feeling. I would say
that I have 2 maybe 3 soulmates in my life, people who are so close to me and take care about me in ways that others do not and those whom I would do
anything for. I have a connection with them that goes far beyond anything that I have with anyone else I've met. I was just very fortunate, maybe I'm
just ridiculously lucky like those who win the lottery more then once.
Just do not despair and one day you'll find someone. Do not be to tied up into looks or you'll miss out on someone great. But if looks is all you want
and it makes you happy then go for it. Being happy is what counts. I knew I found my mate when I got this warm fuzzy feeling inside me. Whenever I was
near them I had a feeling of happiness and peace. But had I gone solely on looks and not listened to the inner me, I would have missed out on one of
the best parts of my life, which has helped shape me to be a better person.
I hope what I typed helps a little, I know it's a lot of read, but hopefully if one or two sentences helps you find your soulmate then it was well
Good luck in finding your mate.
edit on 28-8-2012 by Lostmymarbles because: grammer