Varies from person to person, obviously.
Some can't live without the physical, while others can look past it. Luckily for me, I met my fiance on
an online game and it was personality attraction first before physical. Had it been the other way around I probably wouldn't have even given him a
second glance, and the same goes for him.
I love my fiance and would never trade him for anyone, despite him not meeting my attractive standards when we first met. (I eventually came to
overlook them and they no longer matter to me.) I always envisioned myself hooking up with someone taller than me and not asian and with a better
hairline. But that's all in the past now.
For him, he always envisioned himself marrying a girly-girl who wore all the high and latest fashions and wore make-up and did her hair and nails,
never belched or had gas around him, etc etc. (LOL)
Instead, he ended up with me. A girl who is opposite of that in every way. (I do, however, try to dress up for him for those special days we go out to
a nice restaraunt.)
After we managed to get over these ideals we had set-up for ourselves, we came to learn just how much of a great match we are. He likes my
down-to-earth, laid-back attitude, and for me he's as every bit of a man, if not more, than what I originally envisioned. It just took some work on
both our parts to tear down this fantasy we had built up over time, and that in itself did cause conflict between us at first (him trying to push his
ideals on what a girl was supposed to look and act like on me and me making it obvious I wished he was taller.)
Ofc, we still poke fun at each other. He calls me a "hobo" around the house and I always offer to wax his head once he goes bald so he can become a
Currently we've been together for 4 years, having known each other for 5, and we're going strong.