posted on Jan, 1 2013 @ 10:35 PM
When you are in love, you begin to minimize the other person's flaws and even imagine them as having some hidden strengths where they are actually
quite weak. If they are sexy, you begin to see them as smart. If they are smart, you begin to find them sexually irresistible. Gold-diggers get a
far worse reputation than they deserve, because there are rose-colored glasses that cloud every person's vision at some point.
As a man, imagine you hook up with a lady because you found her to be unspeakably hot. It turns out after the initial encounter that, even though
she's an exotic dancer, that she's a sweet, giving person who is a joy to be around and who really does see the best within each person. Because
you are beginning to love her, you try to tell your friends that she is actually quite intelligent "in her own way," and although she knows nothing
about your field of expertise she is learning quickly, and would have mastered your field years ago if only someone had been their to teach her...
like you're doing now....
I have personally experienced the opposite, and found it to be incredibly intoxicating. There was a female who was not physically outstanding to me
or most other men by any means. She and I were rivals in the work place, and debating with her as a verbal sparring partner brought out the very best
in me as a a public speaker. Her brain worked incredibly fast, and she always had a brilliant and funny response for any argument you could make.
Many co-workers noticed that during these heated exchanges, we both got very worked up, in an obviously physical dimension. Rumors flew around
the office-place that we were having an affair, or at the least had a major crush on one another.
Indeed I did find myself powerfully drawn to her intellect. She was my equal in every intellectual sense, and I often found by pulse racing and I
would begin blushing when we "got into it" in front of upper management. I found myself sexually attracted to her eventually, and had to transfer
to a different setting where our paths no longer crossed. I was single back then, but she was engaged and eventually married top management; I left
before the inevitable occurred. I found myself consumed with her, every waking moment. I thought she was a mental AND physical goddess....
It was hell and I absolutely loved it.