reply to post by strangepointinlife
Although it is a very complex issue at times, I can say that heterosexual men who do have odd encounters with "she-males" usually don't see this as
threatening to their straight identity.
The person may be biologically male, but they are so feminine that to the mind of the straight male they qualify as "women".
However, few straight men would embark on an open relationship with such a "she-male" (although it happens at times), because then the "straight"
identity may be threatened by a same-sex relationship.
Most gay men actually want "real men".
So all these conspiracies about gay men wanting to "feminize" men are complete nonsense.
Sure there may be some radical academics (mostly women) who want to move to a gender continuum, and some freakish fashions.
However, even a cursory glance at current gay erotica reveals a massive longing for hyper-masculinity, such as: facial hair, muscles, uniforms,
tank-tops and short hair-cuts.
There were also magazine reports in SA of a male-to-female sex change who now wants to revert to being male.
She said that she cannot find a partner, because straight men won't date her for long, and gay men aren't even interested because they want "a real
Take the movie The Hangover II
, for example.
Here the protagonist has an encounter with a "lady-boy" in Thailand.
Yet, he still gets married to a woman at the end.
Nobody questions his sexuality after their drunken rampage.
From an HIV prevention perspective I find the movie irresponsible, and people should remember to play safe with all their partners.
To some people experimentation is necessary to discover what they really like to be happy, but please don't take a chance with HIV.
Well, that was my preachy moment.
edit on 6-1-2013 by halfoldman because: (no reason given)