The Christian Bible and the Torah don't say sex is bad.
The Song of Solomon is all about how to have great sex. In the old Jewish tradition, people could not even read the Song of Solomon until they were 13
years old. Read it and you will see how steamy it is. Most versions use fruit to represent different parts of the body. Read it like a sex manual and
you'll be surprised!
This is from Song of Solomon 5
3 "But I'm in my nightgown—do you expect me to get dressed?
I'm bathed and in bed—do you want me to get dirty?"
4-7 But my lover wouldn't take no for an answer,
and the longer he knocked, the more excited I became.
I got up to open the door to my lover,
sweetly ready to receive him,
Desiring and expectant
as I turned the door handle.
But when I opened the door he was gone.
My loved one had tired of waiting and left.
This is in Song of Solomon 7
The feelings I get when I see the high mountain ranges
—stirrings of desire, longings for the heights—
Remind me of you,
and I'm spoiled for anyone else!
Your beauty, within and without, is absolute,
dear lover, close companion.
You are tall and supple, like the palm tree,
and your full breasts are like sweet clusters of dates.
I say, "I'm going to climb that palm tree!
I'm going to caress its fruit!"
Oh yes! Your breasts
will be clusters of sweet fruit to me,
Your breath clean and cool like fresh mint,
your tongue and lips like the best wine.
This is in Song of Solomon 8
10 Dear brothers, I'm a walled-in virgin still,
but my breasts are full—
And when my lover sees me,
he knows he'll soon be satisfied.
They both say sex outside of marriage is "bad". Many if not most of the "restrictions" of the Torah and Bible are meant to keep a person healthy.
Sex outside of a monogamous relationship (not serial monogamy - being faithful to one person at a time, one after another) is not good for your
health. Sexually transmitted diseases abound and even the condom doesn't protect against all of them.
For example, genital warts. They can be found in the areas where there is pubic hair and on the inner thighs, the condom doesn't cover those parts.
They can cause cervical cancer in women and rarely penile cancer in men.
The restriction on sex outside of marriage is for your own protection and health. The bible is not against sex, nor say it is bad, to the contrary,
the Bible and Torah say it is fantastic, in a completely monogamous relationship, marriage.
The Bible and Torah don't want people to be pinched sourpusses who suffer. They are full of commands to be joyful. To HAVE sex, ie song of solomon,
to live life fully and with joy.
The things they say to abstain from are things that are unhealthy and can harm you or your loved ones. We as people want to do things that can hurt
ourselves or cause disease or pain to others, because, they feel so good at the time we are doing it. i.e. getting drunk; gossiping etc.; having
multiple sexual partners