Opposite is true for me. Well the control may mean a different type of control, so perhaps this gets down to the real meaning behind what you're
saying, ie. words are general brush strokes and often don't relay what a person means, so people see their own interpretation not just due to
frequency either, but sometimes due to the human brain connecting dots, making order out of random input, and thus, if you have seen a lot of threads
or ideas put out a certain, way, someone could write something that was wide open, but they meant something else, but the brain will connect it to the
others and form a pattern. So its not always intentional.
So this is my feelings on self control. It is a process of awakening, being conscious, this process for me is Prayer, for I have faith in the Family
of Goodness and Infinite Fractals of Higher Self Contained within Love/Creator/All, (or however it turns out to be in the truth but it shall be
wonderful, that is the best my processor can manage currently). So prayer, ie, communication with Source and my own Soul, seeking help, ideas,
healing, unblocking, having negatives turned to positives, for family members, friends, those in need, the world and myself.
Reporting for duty and trying to get on task. Pouring out feelings of being off task and trying to see through to the lessons in the difficulties.
Striving to stay in the heart. To be conscious. If a disagreement starts due to a difference in energy between two people, ie. one more controlling,
then stepping back as soon as one can and growing different skills than reacting.
Holding light, understanding others.
To me, this is getting in control of yourself. Its also the way back home.
When you begin this process, I guess transmutation of self, and we are imperfect, from the beginning I want to stress, I flow posts from my heart and
experiences and knowing. They write fast, and never are meant to say that I'm standing in this perfect light and have no difficulties in it, rather I
see everyone as so much better, more successful, more skilled, having so many traits I admire greatly and tend to see myself as dust, a dandelion, of
no importance, and have alot of gratitude.
But as one pushes the boundaries, on what they feel capable of, I often say, I can't I don't have the skills, this was not my childhood, how can I do
this, please give me some ideas, in conversation with Source/Soul. I feel hopeless in trying to find the way to help in a situaton where I have tried
every means that comes to me, and have my own limits too.
All I know is this, between the seeking/prayers/converstations/yearning/gratitude/self reproach/new attempts/seeking/prayers/conversations/yearnign/
etc etc, and flowing the joy through as much as possible, just in the moment zen/mind joy through, things change.
Its almost like being born again, a new person is emerging, not in huge leaps, incrementally.
But the path is compassion and positivity. Its flowing joy and abundance out to others Its growth in stubborn spots, being born again in a
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