reply to post by sligtlyskeptical
You are stating not to charge this child with stealing a bike, so then what do you propose the punishment should be for him breaking the law?
Answer this question, and mind you that this puts you in the seat of both the child and the victim. What if this was your child, this 10 year old
child, how would you propose to deal with a child that not only has stolen before, but did it again, and these items are not cheap, how do you make
sure that he does not do it again? And can the community and neighborhood that you live in, can they trust your child, knowing that he has indeed
broke the law?
What if this was not your child, but say your child’s bike that was stolen, then what? Would you be so content to let him off with a warning, on
the basis that boys will be boys? Would you be so willing to forgive, if you saw your property or that of your loved ones taken without any thought
or consequence of action?
And the community at large, do you not think that this is going to affect them? Do you think that they are going to be so forgiving or trusting of
this family, knowing that now that they can not trust a person who stole from someone else? What then?
Kind of hard questions to answer, as it is easy as we are not there, nor is it our child or neighborhood. Many of us were not in the position to
determine the way children are raised these days, nor did we have a say in the matter. Many of us were children ourselves, when the rules on how a
family can and can not deal with a child in their home, from punishments to what is and is not appropriate for rearing of a child. One could say that
many of the people on this board, all can remember when the greatest threat to our actions was not the law, rather the ultimate threat: Wait till
your father gets home.
But those days are gone, and the question should be, is it better or worse off for society and the children these days, where the days of spankings
and punishments having a sting, are no longer acceptable.
A popular entertainer, Whoopi Goldberg states on the following: “We said, we wanted a freer and more connective relationship with our kids; and
they have raised barbarians.” www.allvoices.com...
Her point being, that there was a generation, some of whom are still around, that were very polite, manners around, and then slowly, how they decided
how to raise children changed, and now days, such is gone as the way of the dodo, pretty much extinct.
Maybe we should forgive, yet at the same time, there is that nagging question and thought that comes up, what if this is just the beginning, what is
next for this young child, if he receives no punishments, where does it lead to from there? After all, with the way things are going, would it be
acceptable if he say got shot as he was breaking in, would that be alright? Or how about what if he kills someone in the course of a robbery? What
then if he decided that a 400 dollar bike is no longer the thing and decides to take say a car, cause he thinks the car looks cool and wants it?
No, the problems with that child were set there long before he did these actions and we as a society now must think of solutions to try to set him
straight and to try to help out, before it gets worse. After all there are a few mothers and families out there, that are starting to think as many
who are hard on children are thinking.
Ask yourself this, if this child and his family does not get the attention it needs, would it matter if this child is just another statistic?