Sometimes a best friend isn't in your "group". Those groups of friends will come and go, but your best friend will always be there for LIFE, no
matter how different your lives have become.
I completely agree with the statement that a "best-friend" is like a brother or sister, if not sometimes closer than a brother or sister.
MY "BEST FRIEND" STORY.
When I was in the third grade, my best friend was new to the school, and after he broke his arm, a couple of us started "talking and hanging" out with
the kid. We soon found out that he was pretty dang cool. Through out the rest of elementary school the three of us always played and hung out
Come middle school, our elementary school was broken up, where half of the students went to one school, and the other half went to another. Lucky me
got the raw draw, and went to a different school than the other two. But this is where we learned the resolve of our relationship as friends. We
learned that we can have friends outside of our own friendship, but when push comes to shove, we always had each other to rely on. Sadly the third
person in our crew, decided he was more "popular" than we were, and began to turn his back on us. To be honest, I really never saw him again (till my
adult life), since I went to a different school.
My "BEST FRIEND" and I hung out from time to time together through out middle school, but mostly we had our own friends at middle school we hung with.
Once we got to high school, he practically lived at my house during freshman and sophomore year, yet, through the friends we made in middle school,
we learned that we didn't have to be in the same "crowed" to remain best friends.
At the end of sophomore year, my friend was involved in a serious car accident, and had broken his right leg in 12 places, and had at least one broken
bone in all of his limbs. This took a toll on him, and he began to hang out more often with his "other" boyscout friends (I wasn't in the boyscouts).
This became the turning point, where it became obvious that even though we were best friends, and when push comes to shove, you always know you have
someone there for you. Through out the rest of high school, we had times where we still spent time together, but mostly it was one of those, "I'll go
over here, you go over there, but if you need me, you know I'm here". Our graduation from highschool was one in which both our families came together
for the joyful occasion. We did spend some time together prior to college, where we both ended up at two different Universities (an hour from
eachother) and in fact even joined rival fraternities (both campuses at the time had both fraternities). But we always knew we had eachothers back if
It has now been 10 years since college, and today, we both face separate lives. He is a police officer and lives about an hour from here, I am a
website developer. He spends his life spending time in his suburban neighborhood, where all of the other police in that town live, and spends most of
his time with his police buddies.
I spend much of my time working and really don't have anyone I "hang" out with outside my family. We talk here and there, when ever he comes home, or
I happen to be in the area he is working, we get together and have a beer and talk. We go to eachothers childrens birthdays, but outside of that we
don't really talk all that much.
but even today, we both know that if either one of us, needs the other, we will be there in an instant.
THIS IS WHAT A BEST FRIEND IS.
Being a military child my wife never had the chance to make close friends at a young age. In middle school, and a couple years of highschool, she did
make a friend in which she though was her best friend for years. Then my wife started making some life changes, and became more confident in herself.
She soon realized that it was a one sided relationship between the two. Her "friend" had been walking on her, since they met, and once my wife
started becoming more confident in herself, she began to fight back at the insults her friend would throw at her. My wife is a strong lady, and has
handled the realization pretty well. She is still acquainted with her, but by no means trusts her.
Because my wife is now more confident with herself, I am constantly blamed by her friend that I corrupted her, and therefore tries to encourage my
wife to leave me.
The fact is, because of my wife moved around a lot, she was unable to make deep friendship and pretty much had to chose what she could get as a
"friend" at the time. These friends were always part of her "group".
So in closing
The bond between best friends at a young age, can last a lifetime. As they get older, they may grow to be two different people with two different
lives, but all in all, they will forever support you, and be there for you when you are in need. Being able to find that friend young, deepens this
bond no matter what the future holds.
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