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Originally posted by nixie_nox
Funny how your idea of involuntary servitude only applies to child support. Yet another man who couldn't use contraception, blames the system and the feminists, instead of taking responsiblity.
That is not involunatary servitude. And trying to paint child support as so is just desperate and sickening.
It is to imply that someone is working against their will. Having sex is not against your will.
Originally posted by Sherlock Holmes
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Funny how your idea of involuntary servitude only applies to child support. Yet another man who couldn't use contraception, blames the system and the feminists, instead of taking responsiblity.
That is not involunatary servitude. And trying to paint child support as so is just desperate and sickening.
It is to imply that someone is working against their will. Having sex is not against your will.
You're completely missing the point.
Why should a man have to pay for the unilateral decision of some random acquaintance ?
There's no way in a million years that I'd ever pay for the upkeep of some sprog who only existed because of a ''dalliance'' in my past.
The idea that I'd be somehow responsible - despite the fact that she's the one who's in control of her body - is preposterous.
Get over it, and learn some responsibility.
Originally posted by Dontshootthemessanger
Originally posted by Sherlock Holmes
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Funny how your idea of involuntary servitude only applies to child support. Yet another man who couldn't use contraception, blames the system and the feminists, instead of taking responsiblity.
That is not involunatary servitude. And trying to paint child support as so is just desperate and sickening.
It is to imply that someone is working against their will. Having sex is not against your will.
You're completely missing the point.
Why should a man have to pay for the unilateral decision of some random acquaintance ?
There's no way in a million years that I'd ever pay for the upkeep of some sprog who only existed because of a ''dalliance'' in my past.
The idea that I'd be somehow responsible - despite the fact that she's the one who's in control of her body - is preposterous.
Get over it, and learn some responsibility.
It doesn't matter what abortion laws are. When you decide to have sex with somebody you need to realize that sex may, *gasp*, result in children. Both parties need to be aware of this, and if they aren't, we have bigger problems in society than I thought. It has nothing to do with when conception starts. Seriously, people should say to themselves before they get down 'n dirty "A child might result from this. Do I still want to have sex if I know that might be a consequence?"
That's sooo not going to happen.
You do have a point, though, if a women decides to get an abortion against the will of the future-father, it IS a unilateral decision. But neither is it right to force a women to have a child she doesn't want to carry. It's a slippery slope. Men and women suffer different consequences for sex.
If you don't pay for your child, somebody else will have to, most likely the taxpayers. Why should I be responsible for your progeny?edit on 28-2-2012 by Dontshootthemessanger because: clarityedit on 28-2-2012 by Dontshootthemessanger because: can't type today!!
Isn't court ordered child support the last option? I mean, if you fathered a child, and voluntarily gave support, then court ordered never becomes an issue. Wouldn't court ordered child support be more punative in nature?
Originally posted by Kali74
reply to post by korathin
That is a very wordy way of saying that the father should just be able to walk away and never support his child.
Originally posted by RaxoxaneI agree with you there,that seems horrendously unfair.If you and your wife was briefly married and had no kids,you should not have to pay alimony,i mean,for what? She managed to keep herself alive,clothed and fed till you showed up..I am a woman,and i cannot even get my head around that one..
Unless you forced her to quit her highly paid career,and she can prove you forced her,thus putting her out of pocket,its ludicrous.Anyway,she still would have had the option of telling you: "As If!..please leave,and dont come back".
Originally posted by Raxoxane
reply to post by thehoneycomb
If you are named in a paternity suit,or expected to pay for child support,it would be wise to first demand blood tests,as proof of paternity.If you have any reason to doubt that you are the father.In South Africa you have that option,hope its the same in America?
If you are,its just one of those things,im a woman,maybe my perspective is different,but i dont see it as servitude,nor does my husband.Kids are VERY expensive to raise,to feed and clothe,medical insurance in case they get sick(btw,here its the same,Medical Insurance comes with your job,some companies only have one scheme,you are bound to that one)..My husbands whole salary practicaly goes into raising our kids.He gets a small salary,but he was aware that if you want to father a child,you should be able to support that child.And so we sacrifice what goodies we would want for ourselves,so our kids can have what they need,and occasionaly,just something they would like to have.They did not ask to be here,after all.
Not criticising you,just,if dont want the financial responsibility or hardship of supporting a child,make sure you use condoms,have a vasectomy,whatever,take all reasonable precautions.
Originally posted by Kali74
reply to post by korathin
That is a very wordy way of saying that the father should just be able to walk away and never support his child.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Funny how your idea of involuntary servitude only applies to child support. Yet another man who couldn't use contraception, blames the system and the feminists, instead of taking responsiblity.