posted on Nov, 27 2011 @ 06:51 AM
Are women over 50 so emotionally scared that they are incapable of embracing life ?
This is the question that I would like to have answered.
If there is an answer.
Allow me to offer this aside to illustrate the dilemma I am referencing.
Thanksgiving dinner at my cousin’s house was attended by her close friend, age 55. This friend, who I have never met prior, engaged myself in
constant conversation and focused her attention toward me though out the evening. The dinner was quite pleasant and the interaction shared was very
enjoyable. I found this friend to be quite charming, very intelligent and Spiritually enlighten, all of the attributes I find attractive in another.
At the close of the evening I escorted her to her automobile and said “ I found sharing this evening with you quite enjoyable, perhaps we could
share another evening together” Where her reply was “I would enjoy that”, at which time she embraced me and kissed my cheek. A very pleasant end
to our encounter.
Now, here is where I “Screwed-up”, I allowed her to leave without asking for her number personally. But in my defense, I was stunned by the hug
and kiss, and was knock off my focus by it.
The following day, I call my cousin and after praising her on a very successful dinner party requested that she contact her friend and ask her if it
would be permissible for her to relate the friend’s phone number to me, that I would like to ask her out for another evening.
This is where it gets really strange.
Or at least from my perspective.
The friend relates to my cousin that she is unavailable for a serious relationship at this time, and she has no desire to have sex after the date. My
cousin answers back with he does not want to marry you, and a dinner date is just that, a dinner date. So, the friend has her text me her phone
After I learned of their conversation and before I used the number I saw their interaction as a “RED FLAG” and told my cousin that the last thing
I need in my life was a bunch of High school type girl drama and I will pass on a dinner date.
So, here comes the question.
How is it that a supposedly mature intelligent woman able to jump from pleasant company over dinner to a serious relationship and “put out or get
Just blows me away.
In my mind there is only two possible answers to this question,
First the friend had pondered over the encountered we shared and had already drawn the conclusion that I would be one in who she would become attached
to quickly and she was just not ready to open that door.
She has been hurt so deeply over and over again that her trust of men has reached such a low level that she has chosen to shut herself off from life
and what it has to offer.
Any observations or similar stories from my friends here at ATS would be greatly appreciated.