posted on Sep, 15 2011 @ 10:44 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mother, as cancer is such a terrible disease that I would not wish it on even the most evil of people.
That said, I have been down the same road you are getting ready to travel on and it was not easy. My mother had the same cancer and took chemo and
radiation. She also took shark cartillage and her cancer did go into remission. Unfortunately, the cancer came back, this time to her stomach then
eventually to her brain. But each cancer story is different for every individual.
The shock will wear off from learning her diagnosis then you must take a proactive role in her treatment. If you are able, take her to her to the
doctor and to her treatments. Never let her go to those alone. Share that duty with other family members if possible. My theory through my
Mother's illness was that she took care of me whole life because Mom doesn't really quit taking care of you even when you're grown. It was my
duty, actually an honor, to return that favor to her. By participating in her treatment, I was actually able to cope with it much better, because I
was right in there, hands on. My brothers and other family members had a harder time dealing with it because they didn't spend as much time with her
as I did.
Don't treat her like a child. She's still your Mom and just because she has an illness, her mind is still the same and she doesn't need to be
talked down to like she suddenly doesn't understand what's going on. If she starts talking about death, as hard as it is to listen to, let her
talk. At first I would brush off this kind of conversation until I realized she needed to say these things, to get things off her chest.
If she takes chemo, make sure she gets some caloric intake. An Ensure milkshake with every fattening thing made of chocolate was about the only thing
my Mom would take during the nausea. Add Ovaltine, chocolate syrup, ice cream...I'll tell ya, I stole more than a few sips of those shakes!
A previous poster mentioned to have yourself checked. Best advice as esophageal cancer tends to run in families as I suspect most cancers do. Acid
reflux is a common cause of this cancer. I suggest even if you don't get frequent heartburn, start taking an acid reducer. I take one daily. You
can by a generic 30 day supply for about 3 bucks. Get the store brand (I buy Walmart's version "Equate"). I take 75mg, but again we all differ.
I am sorry this post is so long. I wasn't expecting to say so much. I wish you and your family all the strength in the world and treasure each day
you have with all of your loved ones.