FYI.. I'm starting this post with a little background on myself and my experiences with racism. Then I get into the statistics! PLEASE DON'T SKIM
THROUGH THIS AND ASSUME I'M PINNING BLACKS AGAINST WHITES or WHITES AGAINST BLACKS. Or any other race for that matter. I am just bringing up the
point that racism towards milti-racial relationships and their offspring seems to be more prevalent.
For starters, I'm bi-racial. I am half black and white. I'm going to avoid using politically correct terms.
My mother is a tall, beautiful Swedish woman and my dad is a big black man! Looks a lot like Bernie Mac. He has 5 brothers, 4 married white women and
one married an Asian woman. Two of my aunts married black men. Most of my dads uncles married white women as well. I always joke that all of the
bi-racial people here must be related to me.
Growing up, I never thought too much about race since what I was seemed "normal". It wasn't until I encountered a very dark skinned black teacher
in 8th grade that the issue of racial profiling came up.
I was a straight A student. Very quiet and polite. Involved in band (instead of sports like I "should" have been.. ya know... because I'm part
Everyday I would walk into her class and she would comment that I was trying to be "white" by the way I wore my hair or dressed. I also got a C in
her class. It was a freaking health class! How does an A student get a C in a health class? My parents explained to me that some darker black people
don't like lighter skinned black people. And left it at that.
It was that moment that I started becoming ashamed of who I was. I started SEEING myself. I was too dark to be considered white. I had very curly,
dark hair. But I was too light to be accepted by black people. I was "light skinned with hazel eyes." I'm not afraid to admit that I am ashamed of
myself to this day. 15 years later and I'm still not comfortable with my skin.
The story continues. I've encountered countless people growing up and even recently who have had some racial remark to say. A man asking me if I have
problems because of my "race". MANY remarks about how interracial breeding is not natural and disgusting. Black people saying I'm denying my
"race" since I straighten and lighten my hair. My own black Aunt telling me that I'm finally starting to look like "one of them." I get darker in
the summers obviously. This was at a family bbq in the summer.
Getting rejected by men who blatantly state that they only date white women.
I had a white woman in front of a group of people say these exact words, "Who are those people who live in the trees? Aborigines? You look like one
People assume I'm Mexican, Cuban. Someone has asked if I was from the middle east.
It's difficult not to notice the look of disgust on some peoples faces when I meet new clients for the first time. Maybe if I was totally black or
totally white, it would be easier to accept.
The stares and looks of disgust I get it getting to be too much to handle. I feel... maybe as a part of some sort of natural process, racial divides
are becoming more prevalent. And multi-racial reproducing is becoming a thing of the past and it's deemed un-natural. I really can't help who I am.
I didn't ask to be put here on earth. And I definitely didn't ask to be mixed race. The only good that has come from all of this is that I over
compensate a little. Un-healthy I know. And I probably need some serious mental help to learn to accept myself. But I finished my masters degree
early. I've obviously stayed out of trouble with the law. I'm a very successful business owner. I purchased a house at 22. Would I have done all
these things if I was totally black or totally white? Maybe. But I feel like the constant awareness of race and the stereotypes pushed me to NOT fall
into those stereotypes.
So that's my story. After thinking about this a lot over the past year, I decided to look up bi or multi racial racism to find any insight as to WHY
it happens. It's rather difficult to find non-biased statistics. Even more difficult to find statistics on milti-racial racism. I looked for surveys
done by mostly younger people. It seems younger people are MORE racist these days. At least that's my opinion.
This one was primarily young black men answering the survey questions..
A survey done by very young white females
Source from quote above
Personal account of being in an interracial
A disturbing video about pro-black relationships. IMO if a white person posted this, it would be taken down
immediately, citing extreme racism.
The main problem among interracial marriages is not: their history, their race, their marriage, or their children, the problem is society. If society
were not so judgmental and concerned with race, people would live more happily. Relations among groups would be easier to develop if they didn't have
to face the strains from society. Many things still have to be done within our society to allow race relation in our country, especially among
marriages, to take another path, a positive path.
So what is a mixed race person to do? Upon some of my research, there were even accounts of Latinos being extremely racist towards half black and half
white people. If anyone else has any insight, please feel free to post. Finding non-biased information about this is extremely difficult.