posted on May, 11 2011 @ 08:20 PM
As a Christian, I have made past personal struggles and suffering a point of open discussion with my children. Truth is, whether you are a Christian
or not, you should learn from each experience. What my children now know is at least two fold: 1) suffering can be experienced , caused, or both. In
other words you can be the source or the recipient of such experiences and if I were to have a choice, I generally prefer NOT to be the one causing
suffering for someone else, and 2) I believe God allowed me to have negative experiences throughout my life so that I can then carry a message forward
to those around me (children) that such incidents can be overcome. Similarly, many can be completely avoided with better planning, preparation, or
simply paying attention. Certainly with my kids, I prefer to be the one who has expeienced the heartache that poor choices, for example, can cause
others. I have made my share of horrendous life decisions and caused a good deal of strife among those I love most, and if my kids and I have not
learned from it, then that learning opportunity was 100% wasted. However, if my children can see the potential repercussions of such actions through
my mistakes, hopefully they can avoid making the same ones. Maybe at the time it happened to me I could not see through the fog, but now I can, in a
sense, make something positive out of it.
Finally, suffering will always be a part of the human experience. At my age, I have begun to consider the finite number of calendars I will see in my
future. To me, that is an unknown possible suffering. I find solace in the fact that so many brave men, women, and children have faced that dark hour
and seemingly did just fine. I learned from watching and it has helped me avoid some of the anxiety. I would recommend that anyone in the throes of
personal suffering be cognizant that others are watching. Sometimes in sheer pity, sometimes in twisted satisfaction, or any number of emotional
responses. There are many sayings that revolve around the concept that it isn't how much you have endured, it is how you endured so much.
I hope my children will be able to say they say good when I faced such things no matter how insignificant my trials may have been to others at the
So, do the best you can through suffering and therefore find the way to make something good come of it.