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Originally posted by yzzyUK
If someone WANTS to step on your toes and in their culture it's ok then why should 'they' run like the wind.
Originally posted by yzzyUK
This isn't about how well this female will cope with parenting... This is about the abuse of minors by certain cultures for financial gains by parents.
Originally posted by zerbot565
wasnt adam and eve around 9-13 when they had their first born
humans are just a silly species blinded by it self
Originally posted by philosearcher
Reply to post by yzzyUK
but like I said in the last post...childbirth is a miracle. If people bring this baby into the world scowling and saying that it never should have happened, you might as well just dump the baby along side the road. Its happeneded, it might have been achieved through less- than-liked means, but since it's here I don't blame the grandmother for trying to accept it as nothing short of a miracle.Posted Via ATS Mobile: m.abovetopsecret.com
Originally posted by CosmicEgg
reply to post by jexmo
Who says it's not right? Who exactly has the right to determine who can have sex and when? Who gave this person the right to assert their views on the lives of others? Why is it not possible to let others live their lives without judgment? Why not worry about your own community rather than jumping up and down about a kid living a life you know nothing about in a place you have nothing to do with? Worry about your own surroundings. Take care of those in need in your own neighborhood and leave other people to their own affairs.
None of us know anything of the situation other than she now has a baby. Good for her! Lots of people spend lots of time and money trying to have babies. Lots of people have babies who really shouldn't. I'll bet there are those people near you too. Just live and let live. Wish this girl well in your heart and be done with the thing.
In many developing countries, when a girl first menstruates, she is eligible for marriage and is expected to get pregnant soon afterwards. She will be of small stature, due to her young age, gender-based malnutrition, or just genetics -- all factors that vary by region. Her pelvis is usually too small for her baby to be delivered without assistance, and if obstructed labor occurs, it is imperative that help is sought, and that the baby is delivered via caesarean section (C-section).
However, in many cases, it is her husband or in-laws who decide whether she may seek emergency obstetric care (EmOC). In cultures where tradition dictates that young women should deliver at home alone, the decision to seek EmOC often occurs too late, if at all.
Unattended, obstructed labor can last for up to seven days. During this time, the pressure of the baby's skull cuts off the blood supply to the tissue surrounding the mother's bladder, rectum and vagina, causing a hole, or "fistula" to form. It is almost certain that this will result in a stillbirth.
Soon after, the effects of the fistula will be noticed. The results are devastating. Girls are unable to stay dry because they are constantly leaking urine and/or feces. In areas where a woman's status depends on her ability to bear healthy children, rather than being comforted for the loss of a child, she is often rejected by her husband, shunned by her community, and blamed for her condition. If her family doesn't reject her, her community may ostracize her because she is considered unclean.
Most often performed by a girl's mother, breast ironing attempts to rid young girls of the signs of puberty, producing a flat, nonsexual, childlike chest in the hopes of preventing unwanted male attention, rape and premarital pregnancy, the United Nations Population Fund [UNFPA] states.
Direct Relief Africa Program Officer Lindsey Pollaczek narrates this story of the women who suffer obstetric fistula and the relatively simple procedure that heals more than their physical wounds.
Originally posted by PayMeh
reply to post by WhiteDevil013
It wasn't long ago when 8 year olds went out hunting on their own, gun in hand. Alcohol laws were invented. They are more lax in Europe still. Is that wrong? Should we demand that the European countries all raise the minimum age to drink to 21? Have the problems increased or decreased as we've raised the age restrictions on things?
Again, this is just a different culture where it's acceptable. You have the right to say you don't agree with it. You have the right to not live there and be a part of it. What you don't have the right to do is to pass judgment.