Originally posted by MacDonagh
reply to post by Dock9
It's probably been drummed into them since they were young that they've got to be careful and be ever vigilant to strangers. It's probably the
whole "It will never happen to me." way of thinking that is so prevalant among young people.
The thing is that rape can happen to anyone, regardless of dress or conduct. Slightly curious how a woman can accept even partial
responsibility for a criminal act that was inflicted on her?
You're right of course, about 'it can happen to anyone, regardless', and several posters have raised this point
Children of both sexes are raped. Elderly women (and sometimes men) are raped in care-homes
Yes, we're all potential victims. And all those mentioned in the above sentence are certainly blameless
You next ask how a woman can accept even partial responsibility for a criminal act that was inflicted upon her
... which of course I realise is what they call a 'leading question'.
How about we pose a hypothetical ? No, let's make it an actual:
Woman I knew slightly attended a dinner party at which I was present. She was known as a fun, even a wild person, mother of three, recently separated
(because of her numerous admitted infidelities, often with several males in a 'session'). She liked a drink (understatement)
Dinner had barely concluded before she hopped up on the coffee-table, lifted her skirt past her waist, stuck lengths of celery up both nostrils and
began doing a clumsy striptease
The men looked embarrassed, moreso than the women present
She replaced the background music with something more uptempo and grabbed an attractive married man, pulled him up and began to bump and grind against
him in a sort of dance
Then, she spied a book in a nearby bookcase. It's title was 'Challenge and Response' ... a history book, from memory
She read the title out loud with a dirty laugh, then to her semi-reluctant dance partner's partial embarassment, said suggestively, ' I've offered
the challenge. So where's the response ? ', and at that, she commenced an exaggerated examination of her dance-partner's groin. Everyone laughed
to cover their embarrassment
The man who'd partnered her to the dinner-party meanwhile raised his eyebrows and shook his head with a smile, as if to say, 'What can you do with
her ? She's incorrigible, isn't she ? '. He was married to someone else and had claimed to his wife that he was 'going fishing' that evening.
We'd all been told this earlier in the night and it was evident by the 'fishing type' clothing he was wearing
Several weeks later, she (the party-girl detailed above) claimed she'd been raped by one of her married-lover's friends who'd been conscripted to
drive the party-girl home. She wasn't overly distraught about the actual rape, but more angry that her married-lover hadn't ended his relationship
with the accused friend
How do you regard the woman in question ?
Do you suspect, even slightly, that her behaviours etc. might have contributed to what she described as 'rape' ?