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Originally posted by GypsK
reply to post by letspreadtruth
I recognize your situation.
I've been in a relationship for 3 years when I was your age. After one year I felt the same as what you describe. He was great, he would move the moon for me if he could, I cared for him, he was my best friend, but there was no spark. Yet I stayed in the relationship for 3 years, then I finally desided to end it.
He was torn appart, he was angry and sad, yelled at me, stalked me even.
Staying just friends didn't work because he kept expecting us getting back together. It was a total mess.
Eventually he turned out to be fine, he met another girl, married her and had two children.
Originally posted by iamsupermanv2
as a fellow young'in, (22) i say take your time with ANY relationship.
i've been the king of "serious" relationships, and didn't learn any better until this last one over the summer.
Dated a girl, she moved in with me after less then a month bc of extraneous circumstances, and it just got worse from there (i know her moving in didn't help, but it just made the problems appear a lot quicker)
the way i see it, young people, and it appears more so in male young people, have the inherent need to be independent, and have someone there WHEN THEY FEEL LIKE IT. it's part of being selfish and growing up and learning that's not always the way to go.
it'd be 1000x better that you take a little break, even if it is for 2 weeks like the lady above me said. evaluate your life. because it is just that YOUR life.
something you got to learn about life, regardless of how selfish this sounds, is that you must look out for number one. if you aren't happy, nothing in your life will fall into place...again, a lesson i am currently learning the hard way.
i hope this helps, and if you'd like to discuss it more with someone more your age and has a good understanding of what you are going through (i think) feel free to message me.