I know it's probably too cliche, but I'm gonna quote Dr. Phil here. (ouch! if you're gonna throw tomatoes take em' out of the can!)
accurate though. The Dr. Phil-ism is "do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?" Now I know he said this regarding marital conflict, but
I'm going to put a new twist to it.
You see yourself as more intelligent than the majority of your peer group. This may, or may not be true. Either way it's pointless. My I.Q. as of 4
years ago was 153. I'm sure it has dropped due to the way the test is weighted by age, but needless to say a piece of paper thinks I'm smart. WOW!!
well, that piece of paper doesn't know about all the dumb things I've done. Knowledge is not wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge in
such a manner as to derive the desired outcome. The very best wisdom desires good outcomes for other people, and not just self. My very best friend in
the whole world is a redneck dolt. Really, this guy just fell off the turnip truck, but he's closer than a brother to me. I don't know his I.Q.
because because he spelled his name wrong on the test, and it got lost. However, he is extremely emotionally intelligent. He is very happy, and even
successful finacially because he plays to his strengths.
Now who is superior? Who is more intelligent? The man who lives a ruined, and sad life because he can't come to grips with a few constants that he
will never change because he perceives them as incorrect. Or the man who sees things he can't correct, and simply accepts it and chooses a task he
can correct, and is open to the possibility that in the effort to correct something he finds that nothing at all was wrong with the situation, and the
correction that occured was internal. Intelligence, and happiness have nothing to do with one another. I get bored very easily, and I am in fact ADD,
and have dyslexia, yet I refused to see them as disabilities. I just learn differently. It isn't better, it isn't worse it's just different.
I can sit and talk string theory, or G theory with a physicist, but I'd rather talk about G-strings with my best friend
. Don't think someone has
to be on your level intellectually to be your friend. If you really are empathetic you should make friends rather easily, especially with the opposite
sex. However if you are having a bit of trouble in that area perhaps you should re-think your empathic modality. Maybe you assume to know what people
are thinking/feeling, but are getting the wrong message? Try talking to them, it takes out the guess work. Most superiority complexes are actually
cover stories for a severe inferiority complex. You seem articulate, and intelligent to me, but not very happy. I'd trade all my intelligence in a
heart beat to be fat, dumb, and happy.
I had an ex-fiancee that described herself as very empathetic, and sensitive. Yet her treatment of other people was very coarse, and abrasive. Her
reasoning for this was that no one was as sensitive to her needs as she was to theirs, and she always felt unappreciated. The hard truth is that she
was just self centered, and didn't want to realise it, and deal with it. She was also extremely intelligent, but very miserable. Acceptance is the
key, of others, and yourself. Let people be wrong, it's their right, and you might find out that perspective counts for a lot more than you think
when you're young. Be patient with yourself, and others. Life is about choices, and even though it sounds cliche again, you do choose to be happy, or
not. Some of the happiest people on earth were Auchwitz survivors, and they had more reason than anyone to be mad at the world. The older I get the
more the old cliches prove true. I leave you with this. Sow a thought; reap an action, sow an action; reap a habit, sow a habit; reap a destiny.