posted on May, 31 2014 @ 08:59 PM
a reply to: FlyersFan
As Proverbs declares . . .
there's a time to avoid speaking to fools . . . lest one be contaminated by their foolishness . . .
a time to rebuke fools . . . in behalf of good, sanity, right-ness etc. and maybe give them a slight chance to adjust their reality toward finding
some redemptive choices workable for them vs continuing on their self-destructive path.
However, having spent too much time over too many decades trying to rescue fools from themselves . . . it rarely works. They tend to have a death grip
on stupidity and self-destructiveness while thinking all such is brilliance to the max.
Sad. Sometimes . . . horrifically sad.
I think it's generally wise to avoid folks who are determined to lower one to their level. Certainly when one has options--choose folks who help
raise one's spirits and challenge one to be the best they can be.
When in a work situation . . . the minimum proper communication . . . if it's needed, talk to a supervisor. If the supervisor is the or also a jerk
. . . hunker down and focus on what's worth focusing on.
Sometimes one can make a STATEMENT . . . [not a question as questions feel accusing] . . . a statement . . . that in your experience, when you've
behaved in that fashion, it has never worked out well for you.
Then drop it.
Sometimes, I've noted something positive about the really negative jerk . . . and then the next day, or week, tried to note something else I could
affirm about them. But it has to be in a genuine tone and truly something worth affirming.