Originally posted by Jess_Undefined
Well I have an update. Yesterday they went out and bought him a 400 dollar battery powered car. I was literally furious. I really do not believe a two
year old should have something as expensive as that. But the most part that annoyed me, was that I felt like a crappy mom because I couldnt buy it for
Ive had this talk with them a million times about how it makes me feel, and yet they still do it. I dont understand it. The mother is the one who says
yes or no, yet why are they stll ignoring my requests? Are there any grandmothers in here that could explain to me?
Believe me, I know how much it hurts that you are unable to buy your child the things you would love to. But, do you think it is possible that this
feeling is your real issue? Could it be that it's not literally your mother-in-law who is the problem, but the fact that she does these things makes
you feel this way, and you feel worse when she continues to do so even after you express how it makes you feel?
I'm not trying to tell anyone how to feel, but do you think it would be worth a try to step back, take a look at the situation, realize that someday
(hopefully sooner than later) you and your husband will have your own place, that this is just a temporary thing, and that then you will be in charge
We have a 99 Cent Only store here where I live. We went there a while back, and while standing in line, I watched a mother ask a cashier ring up what
she had, then she had to tell the cashier to subtract a couple of items, then another item, until she had just what she could afford. She was buying
toys. I assume she used her last pennies to make sure her children got probably just one toy each, from the 99 Cent Only store.
During the Holiday Season of 2012, I remember seeing on Craigslist a post from a young mother who was asking for anybody to donate toys to her so she
could give her children some kind of presents. She stated that it didn't matter if the toys were old and used, because they were only around 2 years
old, so they wouldn't know the difference anyway. She just wanted something to wrap and give to them.
I would bet those two mothers would have been happy to have in-laws who would buy their children a $400 toy.
I'm not trying to sound mean toward your in-laws, but I say let them have their fun for now, because when this situation has passed, they won't be
seeing your child as often as they are now, and maybe they realize that and are just trying to take advantage of the situation.
On the other hand, I do know how warped how relatives can be, and if your mother-in-law is doing it just to spite you, then all I can say is I'm
sorry. I hope you can grit your teeth and bear it until you and your family get back on your feet again.
EDIT: Never mind, I just read your post above. It's good to hear you got out of that situation! (And I didn't realize this thread was so old
edit on 23-6-2013 by jeramie because: (no reason given)