Cheating 2.0: New Mobile Apps Make Adultery Easier

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I find this article complete disgusting. There is no doubt in my mind that this plays into the hands of many of the theories I read about around here.

If we can undermine the family unit, we can do a number of things, reduce population, spread disease, even create more debt.

Honey: If you're reading this, don't worry, I love you more than anything, and I'm in it for the long haul.

I find this passage especially discomforting:

Over the past month alone, 679,000 men and women have used the service to contact a cheating partner. According to their profiles, 92% of males on the site are married or otherwise attached, as are 60% of female members. No word on how many politicians have signed on.

in ONE MONTH! Almost 700,000 people have used this site to contact a fellow cheater.

An interesting note was that only 60 percent of women on the site are married, but 90 percent of the men. To ME that means that the unmarried 40 percent of the women on this site are actively seeking out married men.

I don't know if there is much hope for us. I know there are a lot of different opinions. Mine is that we are boned.

What do you think? Is it ok to fool around on your spouse?

(again, Honey, my Baby, you KNOW I love you. )

Yeah I saw some really disturbing apps on my iphone that make me wonder who in the world would make these and then who in the world would download these?! Some of the apps are directly for cheating and hiding things on your phone from your spouse! I was reading the descriptions of some and was disgusted by them. I am 30 and never been married and crap like this scares me.

why do you care, its the peoples own life and if they think that cheating is the best decission why not let them. why do we care some much about what is moral and what is fair. why dont we just live our lives and let them live theirs?

Anyone who fools around is actually making a really big statement about their marriage.

They are saying that their marriage is not okay for them.

This isn't their fault because it takes two people to have a happy marriage.

Some have affairs because they want to leave the marriage, most just want a better marriage but don't know how.

An affair is an awful thing to go through but it can also make or break the marriage.

If the marriage is to survive then everyone has to change, the one who went off and the one that didn't.

That is the hardest way to mend a marriage via an affair, but it can be done.

I'm not sure this place is the one to offer marriage guidance.

I recommend looking for some of the really good web sites that offer really good advice, there are lots out there.

If anyone is thinking or having an affair, your marriage is in trouble and you need to speak to your spouse.

Good luck cos you sure as hell are gonna need it

That said, marriages can and do survive

And this is the reason that Im considering being a crazy old cat lady as a viable option!

Either that or I just wont get involved with someone who has an iphone

Yep. Tear down the family base and destroy society. This is evident in TV, magazines, movies, etc... They glamorize cheating and weak minded people fall for it.
I have been married to the same girl for going on 14 years. Although there were times she made me really upset I wouldn't trade her for anyone in the world.
There has to be a foundation to a marriage and the family. I won't go into that now because I will be accused of getting religious, but most know what I mean. It sickens me to hear co-workers talk about who they are sleeping with behind their wives backs.
For a a little bit of physical pleasure they are willing to sacrifice their family's happiness.

Sad isn't it?

This is absolutely disgusting, but at the same time, it's not really just this application that's the problem. I'm not sure if i've been cheated on, but, for some reason, i expect it. Makes me hold back in a relationship, just cause it's so glamourized.
And it's not a low self-esteem thing. I just know that people cheat. Period. So why set yourself up to get stung? Some of the most heartbroken buddy's i've known played univ. bball. It really let's you know that hey, it just happens.
The problem is us, i think, but this sure doesn't help.

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i dont a iphone just throwing it out there xD

Originally posted by danishD
why do you care, its the peoples own life and if they think that cheating is the best decission why not let them. why do we care some much about what is moral and what is fair. why dont we just live our lives and let them live theirs?

I personally don't care what a person does to himself. The problem is that it doesn't affect just them. It affects friends, family, co-workers, and most of all children(if they have them).
Divorce is a big problem in this country, costing tons of money in legal fees, unpaid debt, and single mothers that we end up paying taxes on. The list goes on and on. So that is why it bothers me personally. I can't speak for everyone else though.

Hmmm... well, very interesting article.

Wonder if this app would be good for someone like me who's wife LIKES him to cheat on her... (have never done so but lol its one of her wants)



How much is an iPhone, again ... ?


Seriously, though, to Daz3d, what do you think keeps our economy pumping? **giggle**

Why is sex still so taboo!?! Cheating should have been gone with the 50's. The same as wife beating and gender-specific roles in the household.

I would be mad if my wife had an emotional affair. I don't want her spending time and cuddling and confiding in another partner, BUT.....If she wants to have a good ol' afternoon romp with the cabana boy, who cares.

SEX IS NATURAL AND FUN AND HEALTHY!

Stop bastardizing it and making it dirty. Enjoy it, be honest with your spouse, explore a little.

I have to admit, my first marriage didn't go so well, but that is because my wife was having two "affairs" while I worked 70-80 hours a week.

In my second and current marriage, I made my position clear up front. I do not want to be monogamous, it creates too much stress, discomfort, sneakiness, and "distrust!" That is correct, monogamy kills trust. You both have urges, you both know it, so you are both suspicious. If you are open and honest about it, then trust can grow!

Additionally, I do not want a politician making foreign policy decisions while he is mad because his wife didn't give him any! I think Monica Lewinsky deserves a Medal of Valor. She did the country a great service that Hillary was too busy for!

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You've said it, basically how my wife and I feel about things. Sex is sex, bodies are bodies, and it's no big deal. It's the emotional attachment that really counts.

There have been people I have known in life who are too sick to "take care of" their wives, physically, and have told them flat out, go get yourself taken care of. Needs are needs, and they're not emotionally leaving them behind. Again, it's just sex. Nearly everything on earth does it as often as it has the need lol


My wife and I have an open trust with each other. She doesn't want to be with another guy, but would love to see me taken care of. I've yet to do so, but the option is there, and she's said many times to never waste an opportunity

The thing is, we're more in love with each other than anyone could imagine, and every single person who knows us comments on what an incredible relationship we have always had.


Well... wonder why? We're honest with each other. We talk to each other about what we need and what we want. If I have a fantasy about someone or whatever, she WANTS me to play it out with her. Same for me to her. I know from experience that you sometimes simply cannot help "who" you want... chemistry is there sometimes, and is ridiculously hard to get rid of. If the opportunity to take care of it directly isn't possible, then playing out the fantasy can grant some relief from it.

That's how we are, and our relationship is amazing because of it.

I'll just never understand why people are so FIXATED on body taboos. It's not how we're built to respond, and misery is caused because of it.

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So if I have an urge to punch you in your face I should do it? Afterall if it feels good do it right?

**SNIP** Obviously you know nothing about relationships. And for the other poster that says an affair can make or break a relationship you obviously know nothing about relationships either. Affairs most often break a marriage and a relationship. The problem with people nowadays is everyone wants to have their cake and eat it too. No one wants to accept the consequences of their decisions anymore. It has nothing to do with your opinions about sex etc.. It has to do with the institution of marriage and a family. If you don't believe in either don't get married. Have fun exploring your sexuality. Just look at porn nowadays to see just how far society has come when it concerns sex. Cream pies, spitting, hardcore anal sex, A2M. If that is your idea of sexual "liberation" and anti-taboo more power to you. But don't pretend because you have an open relationship you are more enlightened as to what it takes to make one work.


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This mobile apps deal is just the tip of the iceberg.
Anyone that is part of what I call "saloon society" knows that infidelity
and sleeping around is probably the norm and not the exception.

Not to mention the love affairs that are perpetrated in the work place.

I think that most married couples cheat at one time or another. Even those that wear their piety on their sleeves.

need stats.www.menstuff.org...

Apparently the sanctity of marriage is pretty much just an illusion.

For those that think "my spouse would never cheat on me"

Just look at porn nowadays to see just how far society has come when it concerns sex. Cream pies, spitting, hardcore anal sex, A2M. If that is your idea of sexual "liberation" and anti-taboo more power to you.

Zosyn... you apparently have done some research.



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So that makes it right?

You know how many kids cheat in school and college? I guess that's ok too? And we wonder why our children are so #ed up.

But keep it up. The powers that be want you to be a salivating dog when it comes to sex and women. **SNIP** has been the downfall of many a great men. And you guys in this thread (directed towards males) are playing right into their hands.


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Not to mention the STD's that are prevalent as well as the possibility for pregnancies. Don't give me that condom speech as condom's don't block all STD's .

Sex is a beautiful thing but orally contracting herpes, syphilis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea is most certainly not.

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You don't think that kind of sex has always existed? you obviously know nothing about sex then. Look at some of the ancient cultures porn for an idea of their fetishes.


As to your opinion about affairs affecting relationships, of course they do. it's the secrecy that's the problem. It's the breakage of trust that's the problem. It's NOT the sex that is the problem. It's the way people think that they have to sneak and lie and steal their way into the affairs that is the problem.


If your relationship is open and honest, and you admit to your partner the feelings you are having, sexuality wise, it DOES help the relationship. Get some common sense about it, and stop looking at the stigma.


It is NOT the sex that is the problem, its how people ACT about it that is the issue. That includes both sides of the coin. If your wife/husband/SO is not willing to let you talk about what you are feeling, about one of the most basic instincts in our lives, then what kind of relationship do you TRULY have with them?

I think for the vast majority of people, having an 'open marriage' wouldnt work, we might be built to go 'spread our seed' or whatever.. but we're also built to need reassurance and security. Plus, if your allowing your partner to sleep with other people... does it not occur to you that its alot easier to start to become emotionally attached to someone if you're already sleeping with them?
And at the end of the day if someone doesnt care enough to control themselves then you've got to question whether the relationship/marriage is of any real worth in the first place. Just my opinion, but taking the need to control yourself out of the equation just makes it sound like you arent sure if you actually would be able to control yourself, so its a bit of damage control.
As someone else has said - 'everyone nowadays wants to have their cake and eat it too'.

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So if I have an urge to punch you in your face I should do it? Afterall if it feels good do it right?

You're an idiot.

I think your post proves you are the idiot for several reasons:
1. You punching me is not a mutual agreement that we will both enjoy, so it does not equate to sex, additionally, if you saw me, I think all such thoughts would quickly evaporate from your pin head, as it would certainly not be enjoyable for you.

2. Your knowledge of porn proves my point. My wife could not name all the fetishes you did in your post, and she has a very active and fulfilling sex life. Your knowledge of porn says you have fantasy and conjecture for a sex life.

3. I did not claim to be an expert in relationships, I even stated that my first marriage ended badly. My claim was that sexual tension is certainly not healthy, and hiding one's natural desires (ie secrets) from your spouse is counterproductive. An "open" relationship leads to much more trust and less jealousy. Open does not mean that you must both have other partners, it just means being honest about your desires, and finding an agreement that suits both of you without having to lie about the way you feel!