posted on Jul, 14 2009 @ 12:20 PM
reply to post by getreadyalready
You've said it, basically how my wife and I feel about things. Sex is sex, bodies are bodies, and it's no big deal. It's the emotional attachment
that really counts.
There have been people I have known in life who are too sick to "take care of" their wives, physically, and have told them flat out, go get yourself
taken care of. Needs are needs, and they're not emotionally leaving them behind. Again, it's just sex. Nearly everything on earth does it as
often as it has the need
My wife and I have an open trust with each other. She doesn't want to be with another guy, but would love to see me taken care of. I've yet to do
so, but the option is there, and she's said many times to never waste an opportunity
The thing is, we're more in love with each other than anyone could imagine, and every single person who knows us comments on what an incredible
relationship we have always had.
Well... wonder why? We're honest with each other. We talk to each other about what we need and what we want. If I have a fantasy about someone or
whatever, she WANTS me to play it out with her. Same for me to her. I know from experience that you sometimes simply cannot help "who" you want...
chemistry is there sometimes, and is ridiculously hard to get rid of. If the opportunity to take care of it directly isn't possible, then playing
out the fantasy can grant some relief from it.
That's how we are, and our relationship is amazing because of it.
I'll just never understand why people are so FIXATED on body taboos. It's not how we're built to respond, and misery is caused because of it.