Originally posted by silo13
reply to post by CX
I think i'm just fascinated by different peoples emotions, especialy when it's someone they do not know personaly.
Why would you have to know him personally to grieve for him is what I'm asking.
I'd be interested in your opinion.
If someone was there for me when I needed to be cheered up.
Or to have a good cry.
Or be the catalyst to help me through a hard time - or better yet make memories with a good time.
If that someone gave me joy, personal joy.
Why would I have to *know* them.
How would *knowing* make the difference with the grief process when they passed on?
Let's say a co-worker you said hi to every day passing in the hall and knocked a few back with at the company Christmas party kealed over of a heart
attack. Would the grief be any more, or less more poignant because you *knew him* than Michael Jackson who was with you for so many memories? A guy
who’s name you knew, maybe knew a little about his life *for real* of someone who gave you joy?
I'm not trying to be hokey here, I'm really curious, as, this happens so often (I'm sorry to say) when celebrities pass.
Like Lady Diana.
People were CRUSHED - but - I'm sorry to say I didn’t find her passing as something to grieve over, because she was not *in my life* - whereas
Michael Jackson was.
Again, not throwing stones and I appreciate your response.
Nice to talk to someone who doesn't have to get dirty about it if you don't agree.
I see your point. I think it's just me. I view the passing of MJ as upsetting as Diana....whilst they did a lot for their individual fields, when i
heard the news it was just a "Wow, that was unexpected" from me. Thats despite the fact that i met Diana in Germany and she was one of the nicest
people you could wish to meet.
There have been a few people i know well in my village die recently, but although i knew them for years and drank with them now and again, when they
passed it was a brief, "Whoa! Didn't see that one coming!". Then back home for a cuppa.
So my emotions, whilst not non-existant for other things in life, are few and far between when it comes to death.
I haven't got a clue why that is. Maybe it's my forces history? Spent from the very start of it attending to deaths whether in combat role or peace
time. You kind of get desensitized....well i have anyway. I found that anger and frustration went with the death of a mate in the army rather than
sadness, but maybe that was due to the nature of the death?
So for me, i think to need to "grieve" in the sense that i know it, it would have to be the passing of someone closest to me, ie a family member.
I know that probably sounds weird to those here who are spilling tears over a pop star, but thats just the way it is for me. I have fave music stars
too, i just know it will not lose me an ounce of sleep if one of them passed away.
Callous? Maybe...but nothing is meant by it.
Like i said though, i appreciate through this thread that some are obviously pretty gutted by it, so it's not for me to pass judgement on how people
should deal with it.....even if i do find it a bit odd.
I appreciate the reply though Silo, like you say, the place doesn't have to turn to a hive of insults just because people disagree.
[edit on 26/6/09 by CX]