posted on May, 31 2009 @ 11:13 PM
First of all..I don't know where I stand on this...it's a tough thing for me to tackle personally. There are so many sub issues to the main
issue...many of which are often not even spoke of.
I'm going to share something personal here...possibly at my own peril to many here.
First off, I have been affected by the abortion issue. When my mother was pregnant, the doctor told my mother that she should have an
abortion...which she didn't obviously...for which I'm quite thankful for! Supposedly I peed in the doctors face immediately after being born...so I
was able to get some payback in there!
Second, I was in a relationship with another woman years ago when I was younger and she became pregnant....it was mutual at the time as we both knew
what we were doing. When she actually found out...she completely turned around and said she wasn't ready. I was shocked at the time...but I
supported her even though I didn't want to. We rarely talked about it up to the time of the abortion and it put tremendous strain on our
relationship....which eventually ended. This was about 10 years ago. Now, for the rest of my life I will be left wondering what my life would be
like right now. I could have had a boy to teach to play catch...to throw a football around or to watch sports with...and to teach him what I
know...or a daughter...with whom I would have been EXTREMELY protective of! I know what guys are like...I am one! I will forever regret not speaking
my mind...but what bothers me most is that I had no real choice...it was ultimately not up to me.
Third, my current wife has a legally retarded grandmother. She was born that way...long before abortion was legal. But here is the real
shocker.....she was raped by a babysitter at the age of 16...and became pregnant with my wife's mother. I bring this up because many people, even
those who are strongly opposed to abortion, would support one in this case. Again, abortion was not legal at the time so her mother was born....and
with her mother being born...she married and had 4 children...one of which I am with now....and who is 1 month away from being a mother herself for
the first time. My wife's mother now takes care of her grandmother. Weird how things work out eh? This is another case were my life could have
possibly been different...if abortion were legal at the time.
Abortion is such a personal issue. Many things are involved...the rights of a child, the rights of the mother, and the rights of the father.
Myself, I would never let myself be in the situation again...and if somehow it did...I would never let abortion be an option if I was able to have any
sway on the issue...although it's not something I would ever have to worry about with my current wife.
The thing I feel most strongly about...I feel the father should have some say in these matters. I know that many won't agree with that...but it's
how I feel.
I believe in the right to the individual. The problem with abortion is that the rights of the woman and the rights of an unborn child contradict each
This is what I struggle with the most as I believe everyone has the right to be as free as possible...without infringing on another's rights.
I just thought I'd share this...have thought about it for awhile...and for the most part I stay away from the abortion issue entirely because it
often gets very heated...and often the extreme name calling and insults follow.
I'd like to ask those who do post in this thread to please refrain from that. Common ground on issues such as these are never gained by anger.