posted on Jan, 20 2009 @ 07:15 PM
reply to post by 04326
Well... first off: If i was going to catch up with a friend - I certainly wouldn't do it over a movie. I hate it when people talk during movies.
(Red Flag 1)
Grabbing a Coffee is fine, regardless of who pays. Its like a buck fifty, you'll find that in the cup holder in my car or under the seat in quarters.
Grabbing Lunch or Dinner to catch up? Harmless. BUT as soon as he or she offers to pay for the other persons Lunch or Dinner, its no longer catching
up. (Red Flag 2)
Walking to the car - If he hadn't of paid for everything in the first place, I would chock it up to chivilry. Perhaps he's just a nice guy, making
sure a nice girl gets to her car safely. It might just be chivilry, I don't know the guy so i can't speculate.
All on a Weeknight and he has to work in the morning? For me this would be (Red Flag 3), in conjunction with him paying for everything.
If he had just called her on Wednesday and said "Hey girl lets grab a coffee and catch up" - Not so much a big deal.
"Hey girl, its wednesday and I work in the Am (but I want to see you so I don't care if I'm tired tomorrow), Lets catch a movie and some food, PS
I'll pay" sounds a little bit more of a big deal. GIANT red flag to me...
[edit on 1/20/2009 by CA_Orot]