reply to post by HunkaHunka
Happy New Year Hunka :-)
I was about to post something controversial and antagonistic - but thought better of it
it's the first day of the year - and I really don't feel like squabbling today...maybe tomorrow
so, I'll modify it a bit (which I realize won't help, but here goes...)
I understand what you are saying. You are blaming the guy for marrying a beautiful woman. Instead of blaming the beautiful woman for acting like a
fool.
the blame belongs where it belongs - he may have married for the package - but she did the same - you could say they deserve each other - but, somehow
it's his fault - still?
men can't catch a break in all this - you're right - she's entitled to her fair share of the blame
it's an obvious thing to say that there are unappealing and difficult personalities that come with either gender - and all the variations on gender
thereof - so obvious that no one wants to deal with it
but I get tired of everything always being the man's fault - no matter what
and, I'm not a man
how many times have we each known people who have "fallen" for the wrong person for the wrong reasons?
or fallen for the wrong person for the right reasons even?
I have personally known 2 women who managed to convince themselves they were in love - because they wanted children
they weren't in love - and you can imagine what happened to their marriages after the children arrived and they had the house - and all that comes
with it - and the guy suddenly wasn't that necessary to the arrangement anymore
if people were honest at the get go - they would realize that marriages/relationships happen for all sorts of reasons - and none of them is inherently
wrong - it's the lack of self awareness, the misrepresentation - the dishonesty - that's wrong
and women are just as guilty of this as men
...I don't think you understand how many women (and men) play a great role up front and are extremely convincing...
exactly - and if we were all being honest we would admit that we've all been fooled - at least once
or worse - we see it all up front, but believe somehow our love will fix everything
Watch how a woman is with her father...
or sister - or friend, or cashier at the grocery store...
this applies to men too
how people are with other people is how they'll be with you
it seems so simple...but we always think: "he/she is different with me"
they're not
anyway - women weren't born with halos - they're just as human as the men