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Every syndrome has symptoms or behaviors and Stockholm Syndrome is no exception. While a clear-cut list has not been established due to varying opinions by researchers and experts, several of these features will be present:
· Positive feelings by the victim toward the abuser/controller
· Negative feelings by the victim toward family, friends, or authorities trying to rescue/support them or win their release
· Support of the abuser's reasons and behaviors
· Positive feelings by the abuser toward the victim
· Supportive behaviors by the victim, at times helping the abuser
Throughout history, people have found themselves supporting and participating in life situations that range from abusive to bizarre. In talking to these active and willing participants in bad and bizarre situations, it is clear they have developed feelings and attitudes that support their participation. One way these feelings and thoughts are developed is known as "cognitive dissonance". As you can tell, psychologists have large words and phrases for just about everything.
"Cognitive Dissonance" explains how and why people change their ideas and opinions to support situations that do not appear to be healthy, positive, or normal. In the theory, an individual seeks to reduce information or opinions that make him or her uncomfortable. When we have two sets of cognitions (knowledge, opinion, feelings, input from others, etc.) that are the opposite, the situation becomes emotionally uncomfortable. Even though we might find ourselves in a foolish or difficult situation – few want to admit that fact. Instead, we attempt to reduce the dissonance - the fact that our cognitions don't match, agree, or make sense when combined. "Cognitive Dissonance" can be reduced by adding new cognitions – adding new thoughts and attitudes.
The combination of "Stockholm Syndrome" and "cognitive dissonance" produces a victim who firmly believes the relationship is not only acceptable, but also desperately needed for their survival. The victim feels they would mentally collapse if the relationship ended. In long-term relationships, the victims have invested everything and placed "all their eggs in one basket". The relationship now decides their level of self-esteem, self-worth, and emotional health. For reasons described above, the victim feels family and friends are a threat to the relationship and eventually to their personal health and existence. The more family/friends protest the controlling and abusive nature of the relationship, the more the victim develops cognitive dissonance and becomes defensive. At this point, family and friends become victims of the abusive and controlling individual. Importantly, both Stockholm Syndrome and cognitive dissonance develop on an involuntary basis. The victim does not purposely invent this attitude. Both develop as an attempt to exist and survive in a threatening and controlling environment and relationship. Despite what we might think, our loved one is not in the unhealthy relationship to irritate, embarrass, or drive us to drink. What might have began as a normal relationship has turned into a controlling and abusive situation. They are trying to survive.
Originally posted by dAlen
Maybe its hate speach to say calling something satanic is bad.
Where all "satan" anyway arent we...trying to find our divinity?
Dalen
Originally posted by probedbygrays
yeah it's like these incredible godlike beings have always been with us manifesting different types of phenomena to guide us. They are bringing us the aliens nowadays to show us that we are not the most technologically advanced beings in the cosmos. They want to lead us onwards, not show themselves and call it game over. It's like they are technicians who are finely tuning a machine so it can work properly.
One person was reading a book about alien visitations and he wondered if aliens were watching him too. He said out loud, "Is there an alien watching me?" , and a voice replied, "Yes." So believe it or not all you have to do is open your mind and you'll discover we are not alone.
The beings created the various gods and demons throughout the ages to guide us, and now they're creating the aliens, so it's wrong to label them all in one category as devils etc. That may simplify things so you can get back to your life but it is not factual.
Originally posted by probedbygrays
I've done it myself at times when I was angry with certain aliens or thoughtless, but I think it is wrong to say that 'All aliens demons or satanic etc'.
I've met aliens who are like gods of pure love and wisdom and I've met some who are nasty like so-called devils (but they were only messing with my mind and later came clean and were really nice entities after all). Also I've met some who are like cold hearted scientists and others who are like everyday people. I believe aliens are part of a new type of religion that can accept technology, and it is simply hate speech to label them all demons or satanic etc.
I find it truly offensive and intimidating when folks spout that type of hateful intolerance.
It's like I could try and help the world meet the aliens and learn more about reality but if I do I feel they would just harm the aliens.
I don't think our world is ready to meet the aliens while this type of anti-alien hate speech is permitted to spread unchecked.
[edit on 14-9-2006 by probedbygrays]
Originally posted by probedbygrays
The beings created the various gods and demons throughout the ages to guide us, and now they're creating the aliens, so it's wrong to label them all in one category as devils etc. That may simplify things so you can get back to your life but it is not factual.
I've met aliens who are like gods of pure love and wisdom
Beware the demons of light