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TALK to the owners. Otherwise, you can go years getting angrier and angrier and then explode and do something you regret. If you can't bring yourself to talk to the owners write them a letter, mail it certified with a return card so you know they got it. Keep a copy for yourself. Document ALL the issues and the times you are most concerned about. At least give them the opportunity to address the issue.
They may, for any number of reasons be unaware. Maybe they are hard of hearing. Maybe they have a sound machine when they sleep. Maybe they work graveyard. Maybe their house is well insulated and they can't hear it. Maybe it's a couple working opposite shifts and one sleeps while one works. Any number of reasons they might not be aware.
DON'T just cause problems for them in the neighborhood by gossiping about them and the situation without addressing it with the dogs owners themselves. That is just wrong and rude and mean. It is cruel to just call animal control without addressing the issue with the owners first and giving them an opportunity to correct the problem. ONLY after, (preferably) talking to them and not someone you "trust" to give them the message, or if you live in fear of them, mailing them a letter. Then giving them time (a week or two) to attempt to correct the problem. ONLY after all that call animal control, or you are the one being inconsiderate of your neighbors.
Why this advice? This happened to us. Our dog has a dog door and stays indoors with us when we are home, which is mostly since we are retired. However, it appears she barked a lot whenever we left home. We were not home so we had no idea this was going on.
Finally, apparently, after 3 years of the neighbors gossiping and griping, someone exploded. That is when we found out. It only took ONE complaint and we now lock the dog door whenever we go out. We hire someone to stay with our dog if we are gone most of the day to let her out and bring her back in, so she doesn't bark for hours.
Why people decided to gossip, complain and alienate us from neighbors, rather than discuss it with us, for years on end. when it only took one conversation for us to remedy the problem, I'll never know.
If they have done nothing other then their dogs barking, they probably won't destroy your property if you send them a letter. Getting the police involved first without letting them know the problem, is much more likely to enrage them than a polite letter. But it's your call. I am so sorry you are so terrified of your neighbors you are forced to peek at them through slats to see what is going on.
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Using the FBI numbers, the violent crime rate fell 49% between 1993 and 2017. Using the BJS data, the rate fell 74% during that span. (For both studies, 2017 is the most recent full year of data.)
originally posted by: scraedtosleep
a reply to: The2Billies
I'm american.
I do not fear my neighbors.
I do not fear any political parties.
originally posted by: operation mindcrime
I agree that actually talking to your neighbor is the best solution..
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Individualism is rising fast in our society and any suggestion as to countering that are easily interpreted as socialistic...
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: operation mindcrime
I agree that actually talking to your neighbor is the best solution..
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I just tried talking to my neighbor but the conversation was kinda muffled owing to him being in my freezer.
I was shocked that in this kind of neighborhood people thought their neighbor would shoot them for telling them their dog's barking is disturbing the neighbors. But this seemed to me the majority opinion.
In a collectivist society you'll see more moderation and self-control in public...maybe we could use a little of that back again.
originally posted by: operation mindcrime
a reply to: CriticalStinker
I agree that it is a good thing we have highly individualistic societies but as with everything there are downsides to this. In a collectivist society you'll see more moderation and self-control in public...maybe we could use a little of that back again.
Peace
originally posted by: CriticalStinker
a reply to: operation mindcrime
In a collectivist society you'll see more moderation and self-control in public...maybe we could use a little of that back again.
Absolutely, I think you see that in smaller communities since big cities can be so large people can exist on the fringe.
I mean, even a town or city of 100,000, you can't be too rambunctious without it catching up to you. Six degrees of separation in the world, one in any given city that isn't over 1-2 hundred thousand.
originally posted by: CriticalStinker
Did you try taking your foot off of his head? (I imagine it's one of those vertical deep freezers)
originally posted by: The2Billies
originally posted by: operation mindcrime
a reply to: CriticalStinker
I agree that it is a good thing we have highly individualistic societies but as with everything there are downsides to this. In a collectivist society you'll see more moderation and self-control in public...maybe we could use a little of that back again.
Peace
Because if they don't have self-control they state will jail them, forbid them from traveling, fine them, or shoot them. i.e. China - what a wonderful world it would be - ahhhhh collectivism.
originally posted by: CriticalStinker
originally posted by: The2Billies
originally posted by: operation mindcrime
a reply to: CriticalStinker
I agree that it is a good thing we have highly individualistic societies but as with everything there are downsides to this. In a collectivist society you'll see more moderation and self-control in public...maybe we could use a little of that back again.
Peace
Because if they don't have self-control they state will jail them, forbid them from traveling, fine them, or shoot them. i.e. China - what a wonderful world it would be - ahhhhh collectivism.
Even the wild west had sheriffs, this is nothing new. Plenty of people still resolve things without getting "the man" involved. It doesn't surprise me people who like living in an HOA community would rather have someone else deal with their quarrels.
Easier to call Karen on the board and let her know the Johnson's just painted their shutters, and it's not the approved eggshell white, but rather cloud white. That sticks out like a sore thumb, and it's going to tank all of our values. Also, their water hose is on a hook, not in a box per HOA bylaws... What is this, a trailer park?