a reply to: Night Star
Thank you, Raine. It helps. Just beiong able to share with some folks helps a lot. You all here and folks on the ATS staff as well.
Here's the rest of the situation.
(Continued from my last post.)
As most of you know, my wife has a condition in the Alzheimer's spectrum. Her brain is atrophying, much faster than most people's do. She has dementia
and some of the issues connected with that.
It is simply not possible to leave her on her own for more than a few minutes. She needs someone around. So when I have been going to the doc's every
morning for the past few weeks, or off for my hospital visits, our neighbour Marta has come over to keep an eye on her.
Marta had agreed to help care for her while I'm in hospital, with her sister sharing the load with her during the day and our old friend Alan being
here during the night.
However, last Sunday Alan became very unwell very quickly. I called an ambulance for him and they got him to hospital pdq. Turns out he has an
abdominal haematoma, so he'll be out of action for a while. Thankfully, he should recover ok.
That left everything up to Marta and her sister, and as we don't have any idea how long I'll be laid up, it was just asking too much to expect them to
care for my wife effectively 24/7 and possibly for weeks.
This left only one option. My wife will need to go into a care facility while I'm out of action. I hate the idea, as she will be unhappy to be away
from home, but at least it's not far away and so people from around here who know her will be able to visit her.
The main thing is, she'll be safe there. It's not a huge place and they treat their patients like people. My doc recommended it. His own mother was
there for a few months during her final illness, so he wouldn't suggest sending my wife there unless he felt they were very good at what they do.
My doc called the director of the place and made the arrangements, so my wife is booked in for Nov 12th, just a couple of days before I go into
hospital. This will give me time to make sure she has everything there she needs – and also get my own head together as I deal with being apart from
her for the first time in ages.
Okay, I would have to deal with that anyway, but I just feel bad that she can't stay home. But sometimes we have to make hard choices.