I'm so lucky to have a flexible schedule and make a fair living without working too many hours and a quick reply has turned into a glass of wine, a
tank of vape and a late night smoke and another hours long dump straight from the brain to the keyboard. This is all over the place and may be
incoherent at times but I obviously have the time and enjoy writing so take it for what you will.
originally posted by: Morrad
I was disappointed to see the Spiked author Naomi Firsht had not put any real effort into her report and its quite ignorant and judgemental. There is
only one comment so far but I thought I would post a link here as some may like to follow the comments as there are not many comments on this my
Thanks for the links. Borderline anti-trans if you ask me and I love it when cis, straight and probably white bloggers that have probably never met a
transgender kid in their life and certainly never faced the challenges of raising one act like they know what they're talking about. Even the title,
The Trans Agenda is Undermining Parents
, reeks of bias and it appears the author did little more than parrot the Daily Mail clickbait article.
Pathetic journalism, if you can even call it that?
originally posted by: Morrad
I was a bit worried about you a month ago. I noticed a subtle change in your posts and wondered if you were quite low.
First, thanks for the stars and thanks for the concern but I am fine and dandy. The tone of some of my posts has changed recently but not from being
"low" but perhaps I have been a bit more pensive and shown more of myself personally? Most of my time here has been spent advocating for trans youth,
presenting scientific and medical research and quite honestly, often fending off or rebutting ignorance and even hostility. By nature, I am not a
fighter although my time here has forced some of that to the surface.
Even though ATS is kind of a bad addiction, lately, I've been so sick of this place with all the election and political hysteria that I have made the
conscious decision to step back from it all and approach things here with a slightly different tact. I've even made a few threads myself in off-topic.
Rather than just the science and facts mixed with a bit of opinion, I've opened up more emotionally with my thoughts and feelings and with some of the
ways I think and perceive things. I have felt a certain degree of vulnerability in doing this but there is a method and point to my madness.
Studies have shown that more people claim to have seen a ghost than to have known someone trans. Although I am not really representative of the
majority or part of any trans community and I haven't faced any of the problems we commonly hear that some transgender people do, I feel the more I
expose of myself as a regular person, the more some of the folks that do read my posts will maybe be able to say they do sort of know someone like me?
It's all about bringing awareness.
Like everyone, I have my ups and my downs and if that comes across sometimes it just shows I'm human and have a heart. Other than being socially
isolated, life is good, work is good and I live comfortably and I laugh every day and want for little. I have my "days". Who doesn't? Life throws its
challenges at all of us at times but I'm a grown-up that knows life isn't always rainbows and unicorns and that it is easy to underestimate the good
without a little of the bad thrown in once and a while for calibration. In spite of observations, I'm in a rainbows and unicorns phase and other than
having a cavity that needs to be filled and some unwanted thickness around my middle, I've got nothing to complain about.
In spite of how outwardly typical and normal my life is and has been, it is sometimes frustrating to see how politicized being someone that has
changed sex has become. It is everywhere and it is frustrating to read posts and blog comments from so many full of fear or hate and misunderstanding
and many thing that are simply nasty and horrible. Even if I don't take these things personally from my high-horse privilege of being known as and
accepted as cisgender, I still can't say that these negative opinions and attitudes don't make me want to scream sometimes.
Complicating all this is the Tumblr, Facebook, Snapchat and Instragram generation of fifty non-binary or intermediate genders all now claiming that
being a feminine boy or a masculine girl somehow makes one transgender? This social movement or trendy identity group doesn't do any favors for those
that are actually trans and suffering with crippling gender dysphoria. It further blurries things that were already blurry in the first place but
gender and sexual identity is not the same thing as gender expression and I'll admit that it does concern me somewhat that every kid and their gender
non-conforming brother that used to be their sister is coming out as transgender.
There isn't more that you can do but sit back and watch with interest and hope like hell the multi-disciplinary teams of doctors that deal with trans
and gender variant young people know what the they are doing. My confidence is high but not blindly absolute.
I know all this has been off topic and hope it doesn't get removed but since some have questioned how I'm doing, I thought an explanation was
indicated. I do think a lot, I've always been that way and do realize that while it has very little to do with my day-to-day life, it is kind of hard
to ever forget some of the things I've been through in life. It still seems all very weird at times and with each passing decade the things I went
through when young are almost like a movie I watched about someone else's life.
It is very strange that even however queer, girlish and confusing to others I was as a "boy", those were the pronouns that were used and the kind of
name I was known by until I was 18. In the 44 years since then and through the struggles to make the stupid male body I was somehow born into as
female as possible, I've learned a few things about life and people and men and women. This does give me an interesting perspective on things that
truthfully fascinates me to some degree. Everybody likes a curiosity and I recognize myself to be one.
Recently, I made a thread pondering the question how much some of these views I have may be influenced by my past because it is hard for me to know
sometimes and I wonder about the things that may make me different from cisgender women and I tend to look for those things. That just comes with the
territory of being trans and for someone with gender dysphoria. All women compare and look at other women. I'm no exception but most other women don't
look at other women and wonder what it would have been like to be born female like them or how natal women may be physically different from me.
(socially, there is no difference)
(Oh crap! Sorry to write so much)
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