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To avoid confusion, we all have the same body plans, but different bodies. In the same sense, we have identical psychological needs, but experience the world in slightly different ways. These distinctions are the product of epigenetic-genetic history, of both our own lives and the lives of our ancestors. Height, for instance, changes with nutrition. So to, a caring and supportive mother will produce a different mind from an angry mother. In line with basic evolutionary ideas, the former child will have energy 'free' to roam and explore the world; whereas the latter child, because it has been traumatized, will devote all its energy towards psychic defense.
When individual selves remain ignorant of the fact of their arbitrary - socially defined - position, they throw one another into rigid identifcations: I'm the strong one, your the weak one. Whats dissociated is the role OTHER PEOPLE played in making one strong; and likewise, ad infinitum. The very fact of being determined by our context places us squarely, and ontologically, within the Self-Cloud.
But once in a while I have my self challenging questions arise- how sure can we really be in our theories about early child-parent interplays when contemplating the kinds we did not have? Winnicot too, was obsessed with determining what kind of interactions at that age would have made a more effective social base for the individual- though he himself had a depressed mother, who was abusive.
The objectionable part being the failure of the other to recognize our ‘gift’ and acknowledge- “say, thanks for acting inferior, and enabling me to feel superior!”
This becomes a habit in social relations later. I still do it.
Because I had a depressed and abusive mother. So this particular skill would not have been possible if I had had a different one. Which, for me, tears apart the concept of an ideal mothering.
The idea of a 'cloud' in today's technological jargon refers to a virtual 'place' that holds the information we store on the internet. Although it is true that the information we store is held on an individual hardware somewhere, the concept of the 'cloud' holds true because each of us can gain access to it at any moment that we wish.
Something similar exists with society.
When I say the "self cloud", I mean more than is meant by the internet metaphor; because although the 'cloud' of the internet contains information, there is no fundamental relation between an individual user and the cloud. The cloud is merely a place where the information of the internet is stored, nothing more.
But in the case of the "self cloud", the "self cloud" constitutes the totality of the individual self's currently living on the planet earth. The self cloud is not any sort of repository of information, but a virtual representation of the logical and structural connections that exist in human relationships.
originally posted by: Astrocyte
Children with sensitivities (the short form) need care and empathy; conversely, children with the long form seem to be more comfortable with some individual space to explore.
And since most of us (most people have the short form) are sensitive to emotional information, were all in one way or another sensitive to one another.
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The “two shorts” monkeys leave “home” more than a year earlier than the “two longs”. There is some function to this difference in gene length, and it has something to do with social relationships.
in one of the most recent articles from Dr. Lesch’ group, they show that people with “two shorts” have a bigger electrical event go off in their brain, in an emotion-related processing center of the frontal cortex, when they make an error.Fallgatter They found that people with “two shorts” had a more powerful electrical signal of this type after they made an error in a computer game.
The implication seemed to be that people with “two shorts” might be more negative in their evaluations of events, or perhaps more importantly, their own personal role in events For now, we can say that the Serotonin Transporter gene, and its length differences, appear to be involved in some sort of social event analysis or evaluation.
Many conversations come to an end for just this sort of reason. People don't really like "receiving" - not being the subject and agent of the "good" they feel they possess.
The Europeans are so ahead of North America in this department. I'm just finishing up on a book published by Karnac Press "Early Parenting and Prevention of Disorder: psychoanalytic research at interdisciplinary frontiers" and I am truly jealous of how self-aware the Europeans are relative to Americans. It's a patent fact that society determines self. And its an unfortunate reality that traumatized/affect disordered parents bequeath stress-regulation difficulties to their children by not paying attention to the infants mental state - or the fact of their status of being an external subject (being a different person).