a reply to: chelsdh
Yep, time to drop those 'friends'. It will be like a breath of fresh air for you. Find a friend who can actually be a friend. You won't regret it
for a minute.
Yes I agree 100%, drop them, one good friend is better than the ten vampires. they don't even know they are "bleeding" you.
You can talk to them on and off, but be selective.
Fifteen years ago I did that, and it was a fabulouse liberation.
It gets lonely, but....
Do you feel really tired after talking to them?
Do you get odd physical pain?
They just need a place to dump their ailments,(whisper, i wish i could say .... here) but I can't.
You want to be nice. Understandable, so do I. ( I hate nice,nice is a cultural adaptation, that has displaced genuine communication),
so you say something like" OH, what time is it?"
If you are in a hurry it is OK to run away from these people.
I try to train them, no "Sit" "Heal" or any thing, just "You know could I think about this, I would really like to respond properly"
Or flat " I don't agree with you but I will consider what you said'
They hate me for it but I HAVE MY INTEGRITY.
I had some one once who asked: " Don't you need people to like you?" (because I wasn't submissive and complaisant)
Me " No, I want people to respect me as I respect them. If I NEED appreciation from others I will constantly ignore my self"
I will be prostitute. I didn't say that
Thank you for bringing up this subject.