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tell the family member to take her fat ass to court and get her outa the house
originally posted by: Omega85
Hello members , how are you all ?
Shes fat
Shes lazy
Shes self entitled
Shes neglectfull
Shes a slob
Shes controlling
Shes arrogant
She is ungreatfull
Shes messy
Shes abusive
Shes bitchy
Shes greedy
Shes spitefull
Shes immature
I am talking about a family members partner who has been living with me now for over half a year .
I litterally dont know how i should nip this problem in the bud but the more time passes the more i can see myself losing it with this chick.
The thing about it is she treats the member of my family in question like absolute garbage and whenever something comes up when she does the wrong thing, she dangles the family members child in front of him as leverage for her to walk all over him and now, me, my family and my home .
I personally feel that this chick needs to be put in line but im not sure how to go about it given the circumstances i have mentioned previously . While i am very up front and not afraid of confrontation, my family means alot to me and the only thing stopping me from proverbially kicking this chick in the ass is the fact that i feel she will retalliate against the member of my family with whome she has the child with.
This woman makes my blood boil and the fact that she is so self entitled and so ready to use her own child as some sort of leverage whenever she is questioned or hears something that she doesnt like is absolutely despicable and i personally think that she is lower then dirt for doing it .
I truly feel like i am stuck between a rock and a hard place so i wanted to ask the membership what they would suggest or if they have had any experience in dealing with this sort of thing .
As allways , all thoughts and viewpoints are respected and appreciated.
So what do you think ??
-Omega85
Shes fat
Shes lazy
Shes self entitled
Shes neglectfull
Shes a slob
Shes controlling
Shes arrogant
She is ungreatfull
Shes messy
Shes abusive
Shes bitchy
Shes greedy
Shes spitefull
Shes immature
originally posted by: Rainbowresidue
a reply to: Omega85
Why don't you finally tell the truth to the father?
Tell him the truth, and let him deal with it.
He needs to know the discomfort this woman is causing you.
I don't understand why she is living with you and not him in the first place, that wasn't clear.
If she is so dependent on you, perhaps she shouldn't be pretending to sit on such a high horse.
originally posted by: CyberSonic
I had no idea by bitch ex-wife had a twin!!
Confront it and kick it out upon gaining full custody.
Dont let the fat slag rule your roost.
originally posted by: RifRAAF
Is she prone to violence? if so provoke her and then obtain a VRO (violence restraining order) from your local po-po. Then she has to move out, or fight the VRO in court.
Thats not really an ethical way of dealing with her, but, ya know, ethics is kinda subjective to ones on personal morality.
originally posted by: MountainLaurel
Oh Boy....if this family member is your Son and his young family ,your sure in a pickle ! Without knowing the age of the parents and their child it's difficult to give an opinion. If they are under 23, their brains are still developing and it seems they lack the skills to provide a stable home for their child. If your the Grandparent of this child, this presents a big moral decision for you !!
If the above is the case, I think I would sit down with the two of them together and help them to decide on goals and an action plan to achieve them to gain their independence. Hold regular sit-downs to follow-up on their progress and perhaps address other concerns as they arise.
I would caution you against holding on to such contempt for this child's Mother if you Love the Child and Father.....what ever happens she's going to be in the picture for a long time....
Sorry if I got this all wrong.......Good Luck and Peace to you and your family....lol....yup "her" too....♥