originally posted by: MountainLaurel
Oh Boy....if this family member is your Son and his young family ,your sure in a pickle ! Without knowing the age of the parents and their child
it's difficult to give an opinion. If they are under 23, their brains are still developing and it seems they lack the skills to provide a stable home
for their child. If your the Grandparent of this child, this presents a big moral decision for you !!
Hey MountainLaurel, thanks for the reply .
Oh this family member is not my son, thank god . I can only imagin how much more difficult the situation would be if that was the case. Thankfully its
Anyway, Yes they are under the age of 23 but only by a year or so and the thing is the woman in question refuses to go to work and instead spends her
partners money like its nothing while my relation, works his ass off and is all round a responsible and good person . She dictates to him nearly every
facet of his life including how long he can play his video games and when he can have a ciggarette , It drives me absolutely crazy and like i said
before i am not the only one that has noticed how horrible this lazy arrogant slob is . My girlfriend after hanging around this chick the first few
hours wanted nothing more then to drown this girl (I use the word girl on purpouse as she hasnt the maturity level to be called a woman) in her own
jack daniels (Which she spends her partners money on BTW) .
If the above is the case, I think I would sit down with the two of them together and help them to decide on goals and an action plan to achieve
them to gain their independence. Hold regular sit-downs to follow-up on their progress and perhaps address other concerns as they arise.
This has been done a few times now and the thing is, i believe the family member of mine is all for moving on and being an adult but his partner is
not . She seems quite content to treat my living room as her own personal bedroom leaving trash everywhere and her personal effects scattered from one
side of the room to the other , Causing the rest of my family to remain in their bedrooms or in other rooms of the house because the main room is such
Its really driving me nuts and yesterday ( They went out for the night ) i had just had enough and so i picked up all her trash and personel effects (
Soiled nappies and all ) and just dumped it ontop of her clothes and stuff .
She came home and as usuall started carrying on like a brat and breaking her partners balls that i cleaned my own loungeroom but its at the point
where im so sick of this brat that i just dont care .
I would caution you against holding on to such contempt for this child's Mother if you Love the Child and Father.....what ever happens she's
going to be in the picture for a long time....
While i understand what your saying , i will not cut her any more slack then i allready have .
I am sick of being walked all over and so are the rest of my family , the thing is im alot more upfront with these issues then the other members of my
family and as such will not take any more of this BS from this chick.
Also, The thing about it is that i sincerely dont believe that they will remain together , it just doesnt work and she drives her partner ( My direct
family member) absolutely crazy . The only reasons i feel they are still together is
A) She has entrapped her partner using the child and uses the child as leverage whenever she is in the wrong .
B) I honestly believe that my relation is not fully aware of what his options are in regards to being free of this self entitled and unstable sow .
Sorry if I got this all wrong.......Good Luck and Peace to you and your family....lol....yup "her" too....♥
There is no need to apologise
i sincerely appreciate your input and i will take it under advisement .
However i am a firm believe in "what goes around comes around" and as such hope that this bitter and selfish person gets exactly what they have been
putting out . Apart from that i appreciate the well wishes to my family and i
Thanks again MountainLaurel