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ABO blood groups cannot be used to confirm whether a man is indeed a child's father. Because of this and several other factors, it took the legal system some time to trust blood-typing.
For example, in a famous case in 1943, the starlet Joan Barry accused actor Charlie Chaplin of fathering her child. Although blood tests definitively excluded Chaplin as the father, the court did not allow this evidence to be admitted, and Chaplin was ordered to pay child support to Barry.
The Barry/Chaplin case did spur the passage of new laws, however, thus launching a new era in forensic evidence.
originally posted by: grainofsand
Pity there seems to be no female members here who have any comments/contribution regarding mothers who lie to men about parentage. Is it a dirty little female secret which nobody wants to admit or something?
When I say you i mean people in general. There is not a specific time period but a certain amount of trust tests have to be done. In other words a person needs to have a record of being trusted to earn more trust with anything that could involve trouble of some kind.
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: Aural
Then how do you define trust? Known someone a few weeks, years?
Trust is always just blind faith that the other person isn't lying to us. We can never 'know' that someone is telling the truth, why do you think so many hearts are broken because someone has been cheating on them.Mine has been a couple of times and I was genuinely shocked that I hadn't suspected anything.
Yep I'd love to know exactly how you define 'trust' and and what point it is deemed adequate enough for me to enjoy sex with someone safely?
originally posted by: grainofsand
a reply to: Iamthatbish
Please do tell me more of this magical utopia which is the matriartical society you mention?
Sounds great but with little detail I would not wish to commit to anything without asking first.
An unmarried father can only get legal responsibility for his child in 1 of 3 ways:
Jointly registering the birth of the child with the mother (from 1 December 2003)
Getting a parental responsibility agreement with the mother
Getting a parental responsibility order from a court
originally posted by: Iamthatbish
originally posted by: grainofsand
Pity there seems to be no female members here who have any comments/contribution regarding mothers who lie to men about parentage. Is it a dirty little female secret which nobody wants to admit or something?
I posted this and deleted but, it is true. When I went through my divorce I told my exhusband that my kids weren't his and he didn't believe me. My friend laugh because that says good things about me.
So, no I don't think it's a secret I think that people mostly share good moments about themselves and negative moments about others.
That being said if we were a matriartical society it wouldn't matter so much who fathered the child. You men seem to want to have the cake and eat it too.
originally posted by: redhorse
So sure, "celebrate" what the technology has done as far as potentially clearing up some of these entanglements but the It Only Benefits Men Because Women Are Lying Whores stance is an sneaky attempt at promulgating an agenda and frankly, the entire "premise" of the OP ranks as some of the most disingenuous B.S. I've seen on this site.
That is understandable as you would clearly be unlikely to ever require a DNA test to discover the biological father of any children you might be pregnant with.
originally posted by: Iamthatbish
As a woman that doesn't sleep around, doesn't believe a baby will keep a man and the list can go on I'm not worried about DNA testing.
Why would the benefits of men no longer unknowingly having to raise another mans child be a 'touchy' subject? Surely both men and women would agree that any woman knowingly allowing a man to raise anothers child without telling him the truth is a quite an immoral thing to do? It would have happened to me without a DNA test, hence the specific focus in the OP.
As posted above this could be a touchy subject.
Of course, but that is a different issue to a man who has been tricked into 'being a father' by a woman who has lied though.
Just look above at what the description of a father means to a child.
I'm sorry, I don't understand the point you are trying to make there, or how it may relate to the OP topic. Sperm donor? What, like in a IVF clinic for couples struggling to have children or something?
I speak from experience when I say even being 100% certain doesn't keep a man from choosing to be a sperm donor.
Again, I don't understand what you are trying to convey here either. Who is not a 'real' man? One who has been lied to into thinking he is raising his own biological child when he is not, or one who does not wish to raise another mans child?
My opinion is good riddance, not a real man, lets find the child a better role model.
I totally agree, but sadly there is a percentage of women in the world who have had children solely to obtain a state funded rented home, benefits, maintenance payments from a richer guy, and any other unfortunate reason we can imagine. Or perhaps you disagree and think no women ever do that?
Children are people not a means to get money.
I agree, but I would resent paying if it was for a child I was not actually the biological father of. Again I remind you that without the DNA test I had, as mentioned in the OP, I would still be paying maintenance to the mother for another mans child, because she only told me the truth after I told her I was insisting on a test, as I legally could. I would have paid tens of thousands £££'s by now, for another mans child. It is why I am celebrating the specific and exclusively male benefit that is as a result of DNA tests: Women used to be able to lie to a man that he is the father of their child, but men of course have never been able to lie to a woman and force her into raising or paying for a child that is not theirs - for obvious reasons.
Child support shouldn't be resented or used as a tool either.
originally posted by: Benevolent Heretic
As far as the kid, his mother is the one who lied to, took advantage of and then cheated on the OP. She needs to take responsibility for her life and how she may have messed up her son.