originally posted by: RedCairo
I think the story of a bad relationship with stalker-level ongoing abuse that finally ends by someone at the bottom just barely crawling out from
under it doesn't much qualify for the inspiring story model. Boy one has to really be a Twilight-50S fan to even try to wring that out of it.
Did you read all the books? Did you get to the kind of confident woman she becomes, who is a formidable match for Christian?
The suffering, confused, unhappy girl is completely gone by the third book, and she is a very strong willed, happy and successful woman, who takes no
shat from anyone.
I don't read romance novels, I never read or saw Twilight, so I cannot speak for what those conveey. But I think that the draw for these particular
books was not as much the sex per sey. I think there were more or less conscious recognitions of psychological desires which go deeper in
relationships- like how we can pick up personality traits from our mate with time, and how so many women wish they could become more assertive, self
mastered and powerful, through the intimate exchange with a person who is already like that.
Personally, I think if those types of women could become more conscious of that motivation, they might be less likely to fall for the men who seem to
be assertive and powerful but are arrogant instead of assertive, hostile instead of aggressive.
I think it is well known that the majority of men are more drawn to porn, images of physical intercourse,
and women are more drawn to erotic lit.... I believe that is sourced in a more object-focused mentality of males, and a more relation
mentality of females.
I think it is more accurate to analyze, then, the dynamics of the relationships in such literature, rather than the physical exchange....
On the other hand, I have witnessed that the influence of popular opinion about
the subject matter turns womens minds away from that.
For example, a woman reads it, finds something about it is calling to her or recognized inside, but not sure exactly what it is....
People around her tell her "it is the sex, it is the sex, nothing else...." and slowly she comes to the conclusion, yep, must just be the sex acts
that turned me on, only. Nothing deeper to see here, move on....
Good way to convince women they are only sexual machines, with deep desires to be passive victims, and to repress all awareness of their drives
towards things like personal power. Very effective for that!
edit on 17-2-2015 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)