a reply to:
MrConspiracy
So sorry...
I too lost my Dad when I was 14 yo--Parkinson's--and he was the one to bring in the money
Mom was a housewife, an honor back in those days, from the old school
The bad thing for her was she was 50 when Dad died and back then, no one would hire older people
She tried and tried but do to her age and by then, her declining health, no one would hire her
Long story short, she lost the house that they had built, pretty much lost everything and died [poor health due to alcoholism] when I was 24
I'm 48 now, married nearly 30 years and we are self-employed
The thing is, my husband saw what happened to my Mom, being totally dependent on my father & losing everything
So he has taught me to be 'self-sufficient', where if something were to happen to him, I could handle it on my own
Not that I like that thought, but I learned early on how life can throw a road block at you and nearly bring you down
But yeah, to this day, I still ask 'What if' things had been different
What if my dad never got sick and we stayed up north where we used to live
What if we never moved down south
What if Mom never drank
What if, what if, what if,........it will drive you crazy if you let it
Sounds like you have a great Mom, a strong woman to be able to pick up the pieces and carry on, especially with kids
Guess since Mom lasted longer than my Dad, I think of her more often, especially holidays!!
Kinda rough around them but we stay busy and don't dwell on it
The moral of this story, from my point of view, is nothing lasts forever
There is no guarantee in life
Don't take people/things for granted
And I always tell my husband I love him every single day, because one never knows what is lurking around the corner
edit on 2-7-2014 by snarky412 because: (no reason given)