posted on May, 19 2014 @ 09:28 AM
a reply to: introspectionist
I could be wrong here...this is only my opinion...but here goes...
I believe that YOU believe that people perceive you as different.
That women aren't attracted to you (because you're not the stereotypical alpha male).
This is all your own perception. You are actually 'wearing' the persona that you believe others are seeing.
Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, you are (unconsciously) attracting that characterization.
I am likely older than you, and have had many traumatic life experiences. I have reached a 'place' where I can go out into the public world...and
act as though I am a confident lovely person, and everybody likes me. (lol)
Funny thing is....that is the exact reaction that I get back from most people.
I go out, expecting to be liked...and to be a polite, respectful individual to all that I encounter.
The funny thing about all this, is that I am someone who is automatically judged by people, at first glance. Tall, long blonde hair, don't look my
age (but am over 50)....dress almost rock-goth (yet with class)...partner has full arm sleeve tattoos...we get stared at often. BUT...we laugh and
joke with everyone, banter with each other...basically leave 'em laughing.
The confidence is what appeals to people.
Just liking yourself...believing that you are a good person...don't let others identify WHO you are.
Lots of very good replies from 'conscious' members here.
Have faith in yourself.