But I have been thinking about the human evolution and I have actually come to view myself as having partly transcended nature. In evolution it seems to me that a man develops more and more of the traits that are desirable in nature. But then there is a shift and what comes after that appears from the frame of reference of those who have not passed that shift as being lower, but it is actually higher, it's where a part of you is above nature.
originally posted by: FissionSurplus
As a woman, I can tell you that what makes a man attractive to us (or at least somebody that we think about taking a chance on) is that he is really into us. Not in a creepy, stalky kind of way, but in a "I find you fascinating and I want to know more about you" kind of way. Sex should not enter into the equation at all if you're an introvert, until you're sure that she is into you as well. .
originally posted by: introspectionist
...or maybe your attitude is due to you not having passed that shift? You say I have a number of negative traits but how do you know it's not just how it appears from your frame of reference? And I'm not saying any of these things to be arrogant, only as hypotheses. Look at your own posts and see if you can't see a touch of defensiveness in the attitude. Whereas I merely posted a topic to be discussed. The reason I bring up the subject is because I just came back from hanging out with a group of extrovert men in a setting with a lot of women and alcohol. I notice how this kind of men view me as weak and feminine. I'm not offended. Neither am I offended by anything in this thread. And when I was hanging out with those men I had a feeling of detachment the whole time. I felt as if God put me in that situation as a kind of ordeal to enlighten me. I really am grateful for the fact that I have grown increasingly detached from the world. I think it has a lot to do with my meditation that I began to do daily quite recently.
originally posted by: introspectionist
a reply to: schuyler
I still have sexual desire. But I have very little of that energy to reach out to other people that others seem to have and I seem to have less sexual desire than many other men. I'm 29 now and I remember having much sexual desire when I was about 21. I sit in my own universe light years away from others. Kind of like being stoned can be sometimes.
"ground control to major Tom"
Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me. But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful: for he had great possessions. Then said Jesus unto his disciples, Verily I say unto you, That a rich man shall hardly enter into the kingdom of heaven. And again I say unto you, It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
originally posted by: cyberheater
a reply to: introspectionist
It sounds like you are detaching and fragmenting yourself because you have a hard time coping with reality. It does not sound healthy. If people are being mean to you then that is a issue with yourself relative to being assertive. There are courses and self help books that can help you there.
I would also consider seeking professional help. A good therapist would help to put a lot of this into perspective.
It sounds to me that you haven't got the emotional and social tools developed to communicated and work with other people in a equal and rewarding relationship. You will need to figure out how to do this. The first thing is communication. Speak to family and friends about your issues and concerns and start going to places were you can develop these skills. Maybe church or doing voluntary work somewhere.
You need to get this idea out of your head that you are spiritually above folk and that's why you can't deal with them. The highly spiritual people that I've met have all been extremely grounded and at ease speaking with folks. They radiate inner peace and calm and the smile that they carry on their face comes from inner contentment.
You on the other hand sound bitter and fed up.
Only you can turn your life around. Get out there and start relating to people.