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She pushes the term "flirting" to a whole new level (no complaints ) So my problem is this, recently I heard that her boyfriend has been told of her borderline cheating (one inch over that line) and now he is just using her for sex and becoming emotionally abusive towards her.
originally posted by: Agent008
I need some help ats and who better to ask than the world wide web....for better or worse.
Okay so I have a friend not a best friend but someone I care about and hang out with a few times a week, we work together as well. Let's call her April, So April has a boyfriend she has been seeing since she was 17 and she is 20 now. Now This girl April is first of all a tall blonde knockout, great personality, super fun to be around and is an amazing artist currently going to a very expensive art school here in Canada. When she parties she parties hard and a few times she has.... how to put this gently.... made some wrong choices when she gets "white girl wasted." She pushes the term "flirting" to a whole new level (no complaints )
So my problem is this, recently I heard that her boyfriend has been told of her borderline cheating (one inch over that line) and now he is just using her for sex and becoming emotionally abusive towards her. But I know she does love him even if it is a false sort of love, I know she is the type that is scared to be alone and always wants somebody around to whisper good things in her ear and she will hold on to a bad relationship out of that fear. I hate to see this happening to her because I know she means well in everything she does, a complete free spirit and has love in her little heart for all of the f*ed up things in this world. She needs to be free yet still have a rock to cling to on cold nights.
What should I do? Tell her or let things run there course...? The though of her not being loved and taken for granted hurts me deeply. Yes she should not have done what she did but it comes back to her being scared of being alone yet too afraid to let go....
I hope this little rant makes sense and any help would be welcome thank you!
I know she does love him even if it is a false sort of love
Agreed. And lady member posting here. Obviously drunk or not she cares not for her current relationship,nor does her BF. OP,it sounds more like you are envious because they are both fooling around on each other and you have amorous feelings from the " friend zone". Seeing her flirt with others must drive you nuts. Buddy,if she had any intention of crossing the line,seeing as how she does with others,she would have with you. Don't try to play the hero...many women nowadays aren't into that and it won't get you anywhere.
originally posted by: mysterioustranger
a reply to: Agent008
Stay out of it. You like her, its obvious by your description of events/her. Getting involved with it can get you hurt. But, I imagine even though we see through you, you dont mind her flirting, would jump at any chance, and really dont care what the "word-wide-web" thinks.
Youre not asking us...youre TELLING us. Be honest with yourself. We can see it. Why cant you?
Lady members? Jump in here please....