posted on Mar, 30 2014 @ 06:20 PM
I've been with my current boyfriend for around nine months now and if I'd known about his drinking habits from the beginning, I might not have even
bothered sticking around... But I didn't pick up on just the amount he drank until it was already too late and I'd fallen in love. What I first took
as just fun-loving and trying to be comfortable to know me better turned out to be a major problem.
Fast forward to today, nine months into this. He doesn't like to hurt me because he knows his drinking stresses me out because we've had problems in
the past and we almost always fight about it. He's hurt me and burnt me in the past over this like the week he drank six days straight, every single
night. Or the night he finished off one of those larger sized bottles of vodka himself... Or the weekend that he drank twenty-two beers. If I let him,
he'd get sloshed every single night of the week. Am I wrong to put limits on his drinking? He knows it upsets me and so only gets six packs mostly
now or if I'm around if he has a case, keeps the number at six or seven... He's started bypassing my six limit, however, by getting beer with more
ounces and still having six. I've done the math, with those extra ounces, he's having the equivalent of eight or nine.
I'm going to give a bit of past information on myself. I used to have a major drinking problem, there's no question about it. Seeing him drink all
the time sends me into panic attacks almost like a PTSD response. I also do not like hanging around him when he drinks... I visit him to see him, not
Miller, Bud, Busch, Genny, or Ham.
He has cut back some but he has no control when he drinks... If I don't say anything, he'll drink and drink and drink and drink and drink. He's
even stated before that he has a problem with this, but he won't change! It's almost like he doesn't care about me sometimes whenever he does
things like that. And sometimes, if I tell him that I do not want him to drink on a certain night because I'm stressed out, he won't drink but
he'll act huffy like I've done some great travesty all evening and fling insults my way on certain occasions.
Just... What do I do? Do I let him drink himself stupid? Do I keep limiting him? I'm at my wit's end here. Things seem like they're getting better
and then the cycle repeats over again from the beginning.