I have always been fascinated by this theory; that the order of your birth and the amount of children raised in a family, the ages of each, may have a
profound effect on decision making processes that we are not even aware of. Aside from the obvious factors; religious upbringing, social status,
environment and behavior of parental guidance...there is the birth order that plays a huge role in how we deal with life. There are other factors
that play a role in our life, too; dietary habits, recreational habits, sexual habits...but how many of these habits are created or influenced by our
There are many of us that suffer from different phobias and we have no idea why...we have psychosis that we suffer from and I think the answer is
sometimes more simple and can be attributed to something as simple and natural as our birth order. If you are pushy or obnoxious, this could be
why...if you are needy and self conscious, this could be why...if you are conceited and arrogant, this could be why...I am not trying to offer excuses
for certain behavior...just merely pointing out to those that read this...they and others around them may be effected by something they are not even
Perhaps taking a gander at this article and the many different things it discusses, taking a personality test or just reading certain aspects might
give a better understanding to some of you about your own personality and how to be more understanding of others. For example, in the first moments
of a conversation with someone you meet, asking them how many children are in their family and finding out the age of each and where that person is
located in the birth order would give you valuable insight into that persons thought processes. Maybe the situation doesn't allow it to
transpire...it could be considered a bit personal for a new relationship...However, if you ask them key questions...like are you an only child? do
you have any siblings? You might be able to glean a smidgeon or morsel that gives you an idea of what you are dealing with. This can help with
business and personal relationships to guide the compatibility quotient with specific people in specific situations.
Quick! Tell me what order you are in the family and what that means to you. Were you the youngest, the baby, who was taken care of, protected
(perhaps spoiled) and not left to make your own decisions? Were you the oldest, who had all the pressure and demands placed on you to “set an
example?” Or were you a middle, or lost child, who kind of fell through the cracks? You weren’t really special on either end of the spectrum, were
you? You may have even been the peacemaker as the middle child, trying to maintain the calm in a family that was otherwise a little chaotic.
I took the first quiz for fun and it was just 10 simple questions to help you gauge certain aspects of your personality; it didn't really offer
insight into the birth order nuances.
This personality test is 50 questions and it also doesn't specify anything about birth order, but it was interesting to see the results. Not really
necessary to share them.
For the record, I am a middle child in a family of 4, my older sister is 2 1/2 years before me, my younger sister is 3 years below and then I have a
younger brother who is 10 years my junior. The dynamics of our family changed drastically when my younger brother was born, but my personality had
already been affected/inflicted by the middle child syndrome.
There is, also, another factor not mentioned...adoption and the place that child takes in a family dynamic. They could be from a broken home or
orphaned, they may have other siblings, they may have come from foster care or another country even, so those factors weigh heavily on their
In my family I can see many indications of personality based on birth order...my older sister has always been the smartest and the one to overachieve
so she is very opinionated and thinks she is right 99% of the time. My younger sister is closer to me in personality...we always try to get along and
do our best to measure up to our older sister. We adapt easier to different social situations and make friends easily...we are intelligent, but
don't think we know it all. My younger brother is spoiled rotten and has been babied his whole life and has a sense of entitlement. He is
intelligent and can be friendly, but he shares more of the arrogant behavior and the know it all attitude of my older sister. Part of this is due to
the fact we had left the house before he reached a certain age and essentially, along with already being the spoiled rotten younger child, he
graduated to being the only child in a household that had changed in social status with parents that could afford a different lifestyle...that is not
to say me and my other siblings were deprived, because we weren't... it is just to suggest the family focus of my parents was more directly channeled
in his direction.
Family dynamics are often overlooked when we are searching for answers to our own personality behavior patterns, the purpose of this thread was to
shine a light
in that direction for your sake and the sake of others.
Middle Child Soul