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reply to post by bigfatfurrytexan
Thank you for sharing. That must have been difficult to open up about or to deal with. It does appear to have had a major effect on you. You are probably very protective of your children and at the same time extremely weary of authority figures. The dynamics you speak of are not specifically unique, but they are not normal or optimal that is certain. I do still believe that you have personality traits that you can attribute to your birth order, prior to the upheaval you experienced as you got older. The environment we are raised in always plays a huge role in our development. There are other situations I have not touched upon yet that play a major role as well.
Having a child from a forced position (rape) or being abused as a child, can negate certain order of birth personality behavior patterns. I happen to think birth order plays a role in how certain children get abused to begin with and the type of abuse they withstand. The birth order can determine how a child deals with abuse and overcomes in later years or becomes one that perpetuates that behavior and passes it along to other children.
reply to post by soulpowertothendegree
I was at my wits end with my youngest child when he was in grade school. He had been diagnosed with ADHD but it was mild and more of a psychological nature.Therefore medicine wouldn't help. He needed a new way to be disciplined and I didn't really know anything but what I had learned from my parents.
I was driving to work one day and heard this guy on the radio talking about birth order and how it affects how you should deal with your children, his book was called "Making children mind without losing yours" By Dr. Kevin Leman. I got the book and changed how I dealt with my son,and went on to read his other books.He goes more indepth in the other books telling how birth order affects all of us,and speaks about the lonely only and disabled children etc. and how it changes the birth order. Honestly I think he is spot on about it. His books are a pleasure to read with a tongue in cheek attitude,while still getting the information across. I know looking at me and my siblings that is sure is true.
reply to post by fossilera
Children are not the only ones affected by birth order...parents are too. In their own childhood and then as being parents...they are evolving and they have intimacy issues as parents that play a part in how they raise their children. Thanks for sharing...just curious to know a few things if you care to respond.
How old were your parents when they began having children? How many children were in each of their families and what birth order were they? Are you a parent, yet?edit on 1-3-2014 by soulpowertothendegree because: (no reason given)
reply to post by violet
Interesting that you took what I said to be an insult, quite the contrary...it was an educated guess based on your response to my thread, however, now you are exhibiting the tendencies of the baby in the family. So, fill me in on the exact details surrounding you being a middle child? How many siblings and what are the age differences? How old where your parents when they began having children? Are you from a happy home? What is your relationship with your siblings? What gender is predominant in your family? What are you parents birth orders? how many siblings do they have?