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Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
...I don't even completely blame him for the things he did, if anyone in the world can claim not guilty due to ignorance, he could. And what did I learn from that?
Don't date virgins, or at the very least not ones who have absolutely zero understanding of how the real world of sex works. ...
Originally posted by Res Ipsa
WTF?
I thought dude was being funny about the not crying thing. But not only is he serious but some of you "women" no less, are just as backwards thinking!
Men don't need to watch the death of a baby to justify crying. Maybe the birth of a daughter....maybe her marriage. Maybe some song hits home.
....OMG...am I just wasting my breath or what?
I will avoid crying in public at all costs but just because it is embarrassing to be in that type of vulnerable state. I also don't fart in public either.
If you have never seen your husband cry than you have one emotionaly repressed dude on your hands.
Hey, guess what you get when you have a guy or husband that won't share his emotions with you? You get the type of guy that will hide his porn habit from you.
( hide the emotion means lack of trust, lack of trust means lack of intimacy, lack of intimacy starts you down the road to every bad relationship type scenerio there is.)
Originally posted by sir_chancealot
Wait, wait, wait.
So, your entire premise infers that there are "lots of guys" who would leave a woman hanging sexually (so to speak), but when someone pins you down for specifics, it was just ONE GUY?
Is anyone else starting to see why a man might prefer porno to real women in the west?
OMG. I completely missed this. What you SHOULD HAVE learned from this is "Hmmm... there may come a time in life in which I will have to show a male how to successfully have good sex with me.", but apparently that lesson whipped right by you. But let me guess... It's not "hot" if you have to show him the basics of turning a woman on, right?
That right there is the basis for the "double standard" in male/female sexuality. As a man, you can be all kinds of things, but you'd better NOT be sexually inexperienced. Everything else is excusable.
Originally posted by Sonya610
Now analyze him or even defend him, I suspect that is far more annoying, notice the silence? LOL.
Originally posted by DuneKnight
...The case, which had previously gone unreported, involved an engineer in his 30s, named as Mr X, who married Ms Y, a student nurse in her 20s, in 2006. The wedding night party was still under way at the family’s home in Roubaix when the groom came down from the bedroom complaining that his bride was not a virgin....
Originally posted by DuneKnight
first off, i have to say this...it will only get worse. how so? well if you guys have been following with all that new upcoming technology porn will soon become 3D on new advanced TVs or even worse... Holograms which have already been developed. imagine the possibilities.
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
Personally, I resent that.
You automatically assume that it is the fault of the woman somehow WITHOLDING the information about what she likes.
Nobody would do that.
If she doesn't know what she wants, then obviously she can't tell you. In which case you TRY things until you find what works.
I don't know any woman who would purposefully deprive herself of pleasure in a sexual relationship, unless she had some sort of harsh religious upbringing that made her think sex was wrong....
Originally posted by EverythingYouDespise
As a man, I resent that. It is not our responsibility to provide you with any additional pleasure during sex than the incidental enjoyment you may or may not receive while we obtain our goal. You can easily get off on your own time, and you should. If I'm pre-occupied with trying to please you, it will dull my own pleasures. That is not a sacrifice I am willing to make!
I'm apologize in advance if you have already given out this info and I missed it, but I'm curious as to your age. I may be totally far off but I'm guessing you are in your early 20's and have yet to have a long-term meaningful relationship or any type of relationship based on anything besides wether or not you were pleased in bed.
And am I correct in assuming from your posts that you are looking for a woman cares less about getting any pleasure or fun for herself, that you want a woman that is there solely to satisfy you?
Isn't it a double standard for you to not care about her pleasure and yet you want a woman who will only care about your pleasure? If you aren't to be bothered with trying to please a woman what makes you think a woman wants to be bothered with trying to please you? Do I hear the word 'selfish'? Maybe you should 'get off' on your own time too!
[edit on 7-8-2008 by MsFab]
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
You automatically assume that it is the fault of the woman somehow WITHOLDING the information about what she likes. Nobody would do that.
If she doesn't know what she wants, then obviously she can't tell you. In which case you TRY things until you find what works.
Originally posted by Sonya610
But in reality, a good lover that really seeks to please knows to JUST ASK. If I am really into a partner and really want to please, vs. just letting the chips fall where they may, I ask.
Originally posted by Res Ipsa
uh....there you go Ashley. A woman who could do without the crying unless of course you are at the Vets.
It is truly hard to amaze me with anything but I have to say I really am about the crying issue. I feel my need to avoid it at all costs, a weakness and a hinderance to a more intimate relationship. I have never had peer pressure telling me to man up and I honestly don't know too many guys that say crying is for little girls. I have had more than a guy friend or two that seem to find a reason to cry when their wives left them or when finding out they were having an affair. I didn't think once to say, "hey, stop crying you pussy!"
Oh, thats right....look at that pussy Brett Farve....crying like a baby on national t.v........why? He wasn't going to play football any more.....yeah, he is the poster child for pussyman isn't he?! Crying over a stupid little game....Man up!
Hey to the poster from egypt that started this whole BS about crying. Do you know who Brett Farve is? Is he a girly man?
Originally posted by Res Ipsa
Originally posted by Sonya610
But in reality, a good lover that really seeks to please knows to JUST ASK. If I am really into a partner and really want to please, vs. just letting the chips fall where they may, I ask.
Ding. Ding. to my young male friends out there, do you hear what she is saying? Now there are plenty of scenerios where this becomes less or more realiable but as a general rule.....if you are dating a woman and are wondering where you stand, well, "...letting the chips fall where they may" when it comes to sex, doesn't bode well for you. Take heed my young padawans. Communication is always a good sign.
This is even more true for you females. If we don't ask....we don't care. aint that right my sociopathic friend, Mr. Everythingyoudespise?
(if you sleep with a guy like that before you knew this about him, and it bothers you....well blame yourself equally.)