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Originally posted by HypnoAsp
You stated that you are "living as a man". How can you do yourself such a horrible injustice? Why are you letting unimportant lower souls force you into a living hell? There is a small portion of your situation that is ALL YOU. I understand you may be cross dressing behind closed doors. Why in the hell would you want to "check out" without even experiencing the full effect of what you so incorrectly consider your demon? Move to an area where there are many evolving on your own level. Beg borrow and claw your way to a surgery if thats is your dream. Put on your girdle and shake your skirt as you freely walk amongst like and more accepting minds. See a specializing therapist to help your down this experience we call life. You only got one. Quit focusing on it defining you. There is much much more to YOU & LIFE. You are not really "special" in that aspect. There are thousands of Trans genders out there. You need to find out how you are special and love yourself for it. If your gonna check out gain 450 lbs by eating your favorite food, run naked on the white house lawn or whatever your "vices" may be. Game Over is well Game over. Get your "me" on first. Before long you will realize your lifetime has flown by and you will be happy that you did not check out early. So you get beat up for wearing pumps, I've been beat up for being skinny. We are all delt our hand mate..
The "evolved" love you man, appreciate you as valuable and respect your journey.
~Hypno
[edit on 17-7-2008 by HypnoAsp]
Originally posted by Acidtastic
if only it were as easy as that
If I was myself in public (a gay man) I would not just get the occasional beating. I would probably end up dead in a ditch. most of my friends know,and all my family obviously. But it's not something I feel I a-have to share with everyone,and B-should share with everyone.
nono,I'm not a mincer anyway. (which in some ways is harder to "come out" as it were,cos people don't expect it)But even to say "I'm a poof" in some circles is enough to get you stuck in a ditch. Let alone to say "I'm transgender" people just don't understand what this sort of stuff means. And to have the conviction to not care,is a massive step inside your own self. I'm not sure if I'm coming accross with the point I'm trying to make,but I hope I am.
Originally posted by pieman
Originally posted by Acidtastic
if only it were as easy as that
If I was myself in public (a gay man) I would not just get the occasional beating. I would probably end up dead in a ditch. most of my friends know,and all my family obviously. But it's not something I feel I a-have to share with everyone,and B-should share with everyone.
huh?!? what do you mean be yourself in public? it isn't actually a law that you must be a camped up mincing twat in order to be gay. it's perfectly acceptable to be a normal guy and gay. i can understand a transsexual or a transgendered person having issues, but being gay doesn't require you to carry a huge flashing neon rainbow around with you everywhere. if your not doing so and don't associate with these people where would the issue be exactly? how can you not be yourself?
other than being a twat, which doesn't require you to be gay, the only other thing that people might find offensive are lavish public displays of affection, which are pretty offensive regardless of your sexuality. being gay doesn't disqualify a person from adhering to social norms.
sorry, i know it's off topic, but statements like that annoy me and take away from the genuine issue the OP had, which is depression caused by an unfulfillable desire, not being a gay man with a persecution complex.
1) I am depressed a great deal and what's worse I feel as though I'll never be happy no matter how good any other part of my life is. I feel like my life is complete suffering and that nothing in the afterlife could be worse than this. Can anyone give me a compelling reason not to just see what's on the other side?
2) If you believe in God, or some type of benevolent higher power: What kind of God or higher power would put this type of unattainable desire inside me and why?
3) Can anyone see any type of purpose in my situation or deeper meaning to be attained from my suffering?
You are in a state of constant WANTing. You WANT to be a different gender. Something you are not; a WANTing that isn't necessary.Sound familiar?
A furry lifestyler is generally considered to be a person who has one or more of these characteristics:
Integrating a perceived animal nature into one's persona (gait, use of voice, personality, instincts, etc.)
Totemistic beliefs, specifically with regard to animal spirits
A belief that animal instincts exist within humans, regardless of whether they are separate, immaterial spirits, part of the genetic code, caused by reincarnation from a previous animal life, or anything else
A furry lifestyler may also take on physical attributes of an animal, although this is rare. Such attributes may be: hair style (including facial hair), tattoos, articles of clothing (e.g. a tail or ears), or jewelry. In a few extreme cases, some wealthy lifestylers have used elective surgery to affect a physical transformation.
Some furry lifestylers have a general dysmorphia, a strong, deeply rooted feeling that they are not in the right body. A few furries have gone so far as to use the term Species Dysmorphic Disorder, a neologism that puns on body dysmorphic disorder, though the simpler "species dysmorphia" is a slightly more common phrase. These seem to indicate a disassociation with the psychological identity of the public at large.
It should. At least this group recognizes they have a disorder. MAYBE because their symptoms are more pronounced. It really should sound familiar because a lot of these exhibit ANOTHER symptom
A common perception of the furry lifestyle is that a very high proportion of its members are gay or bisexual, especially the latter. However, some people dispute this, opining that furs are, as a rule, more likely than the general population to accept non-heterosexual orientations and that this, rather than any real difference in numbers, accounts for the perception. Estimates as to the actual proportion of gay and bi furs therefore range widely, but reliable statistics are absent since serious research into this subject is almost nonexistent.
Originally posted by whatukno
Im going to reply to your origional post JFKjr.
Have you learned anything through your suffering? My advice is to start working towards your goal of becoming a woman. I think that once you start seriously going down the path towards becoming a woman and see progress in this area, you will start feeling better about yourself. I certainly would look into seeing a psychologist along the way. The transition between being a man and being a woman will be frustrating, and confusing. I would reccomend a psychologist to help you in your journey. Don't choose a psychologist that will try and talk you out of this, instead choose one that perhaps has dealt with this issue before and through experience knows what others have gone through. This would make the transition much easier.