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originally posted by: Nickn3
I have been married to same woman for 41 year. There have been many up and downs that go with the physical changes of natural aging. Yet neither of us feel like slaves. Recently my wife and I had to spend time apart due work.. I missed her terribly. She is not my slave but she is my best friend.
originally posted by: Raxoxane
No one owns another person,married or otherwise.One can leave a relationship at any time,as the high divorce rate shows.Doesn't mean one's a slave either lol.I don't do chores if i don't feel like it,my hubby pays for a cleaning lady 3 times a week anyway.If i don't feel like cooking,he's supercool about that,happily accepting toasted sarmies.Sometimes he even feels like cooking.Depends Who you marry,i guess?
originally posted by: MerkabaMeditation
originally posted by: Nickn3
I have been married to same woman for 41 year. There have been many up and downs that go with the physical changes of natural aging. Yet neither of us feel like slaves. Recently my wife and I had to spend time apart due work.. I missed her terribly. She is not my slave but she is my best friend.
When married couples face opsticles like loosing interest in each other, sexual or otherwise, they feel compelled to keep together because of societal and/or religious pressure. A free man or woman would just leave.
-MM
originally posted by: intrptr
a reply to: MerkabaMeditation
Oh good, another non conformist. Theres this 'formula' for life they ingrain into everyone, very few people question the formula, only feeling complete if they follow it , doing what they are told.
Thank goodness I never measure up.
originally posted by: MerkabaMeditation
a reply to: Plotus
I don't buy that - what does it even mean "union of body and soul".
-MM
originally posted by: ketsuko
originally posted by: MerkabaMeditation
a reply to: Plotus
I don't buy that - what does it even mean "union of body and soul".
-MM
If you had ever really found the right person, you wouldn't have to ask. Been married for 20+ years and never once felt like I was anyone's slave. I just felt more completely myself.
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: MerkabaMeditation
Oh, I knew myself just fine which is the only reason why a marriage works in the first place.
originally posted by: MerkabaMeditation
I'm in my 40s and have never married, I’m not unattractive, poor, or too weird to find a partner - I just don't want to get married. Why? Because I intuitively never liked the idea of anyone sort of "owning" me through marriage and telling me what to do - I want to be a free man.
I feel that marriage is the last legal form of slavery, an ugly remnant from a time where slavery in all forms were prevalent in society. Am I the only one that feels this way? I would like to know what you guys & gals think. Thanks.
-MM