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Indigent
You can support her believes and do things inside her believe system to comfort her even when you know its useless and utterly crap. For example is she sees you dad say to her to light some candles for him, so he could reach the other side with more ease. things like this will help her, think of it as a placebo.
Always support your woman, unless you want a divorce (or she want to do a ritualistic sacrifice or some crazy sh#t).
DeadSeraph
reply to post by Terminal1
If it's causing some stress it might be helpful to sit down and talk about it. I am in a similar situation and while I believe in the paranormal, I ALWAYS look for a logical explanation first. My gf and her daughters think anything "weird" is automatically a ghost, and I am constantly having a chuckle about it and offering up logical explanations for what they think is strange. In a way, this can keep a couple grounded, as you and your partner sort of complete each other and can meet halfway. She can help to keep your mind open, and you can help to keep her logical.
The best thing to do might be to try and see it in that light, and communicate it to her. Explain to her that although your beliefs may differ, you can help keep each other more centered through your differences.
purplemer
reply to post by Terminal1
We are ruled by degrees of separation. You are only arguing over words and labels... Maybe If you think the world is caused by the big bang and your wife thinks it was created by God.. What is the difference. They are both events in which something is created out of nothing. They are both undefinable events that we do not understand. Same concepts. Different words.
Maybe you think an apple falls off a tree because of gravity. Gravity is not something we can see. It is really any different from a tribe living in the forest somewhere thinking the apple falls off the tree because of a spirit.
These are all stories we make to help us understand the world. They are all stories though. Science no different...
Terminal1
Snarl
Be honest.
Of course...
rickymouse
I've learned that you have to watch what you say to your better half. I didn't learn that the easy way either.
Snarl
Terminal1
Snarl
Be honest.
Of course...
So ... how many UFOs do you need to see before you know they exist?
You've already admitted you're having paranormal experiences. Be at peace with it ... and don't get carried away. Not everybody gets it, and some that do, are VERY reluctant to accept it for what it is. You can't change what you know is reality ... and there's no evidence to convince the skeptics.
Chrisfishenstein
reply to post by Terminal1
You need to be with her all the time, when these "events" take place you need to be the one to explain to her what is going on. Be kind and sincere in your analysis and tell her what is really going on. If you hear something in the hall or on the roof, go out of your way to prove it to be natural in nature.
Comfort her, she apparently is asking for it. When this kind of thing is discussed, she may just want you to spend more time holding her. Don't make it uncomfortable for her to express what she is saying and do not be rude in your discussions on why it isn't what she says it is. You should be able to calm most of it down by simple explanations.
Hope this helps some! Good luck.
By the way, there is nothing wrong with believing in religion or God. You may want to read into some religious things to speak to her about that also. Inform yourself on Jesus Christ and religious things. If you can teach her some things about religion she doesn't know, your words in other aspects will mean more to her. This is showing you give a crap about her and her beliefs and are willing to seriously help in finding the answers.
Terminal1
What can I do? I mean I think it would be nice to think there are spirits and people watching over us but it just does not fit in my reality of the Universe. Is there anything that I can do to actually tune in? This head shaking between us as we look at each other, one believing one thing, one believing another, seems to be getting passed comedy.
Any help for this unbeliever to help me believe when, according to my better half, this house is pretty active?